'My boyfriend and I keep splitting up just so we can have amazing make-up sex again'

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few years and so far it’s been a rocky road – we’ve split up more times than I can count.

We’re both young (I’m 24 and he’s 26) and we’ve always argued a lot – it’s like we’ve got into
the habit of arguing, so it’s normal for us. It’s become part of the relationship.

The thing is, whenever we break up, we get on better than ever when we see each other. I can look at him from across the room and fancy him so much, I literally want to rip his clothes off on the spot, and he feels the same about me.

The make-up sex is always amazing, so we end up back together and things are good for a few weeks, but then the ­arguments set in and I’m sick of him again, and we break up.

I can tell that my family, and especially my friends, are sick of hearing about my relationship and every one of them has told me this isn’t normal and I should end it and move on, but I can’t seem to do it.

I think we’re made for each other, but just need to get over this habit of arguing.

What do you think? I'd love your opinion.

Coleen says

Well, all couples argue a bit, that’s normal. But these ­arguments seem to be ­dominating the relationship and leading to frequent break-ups, which isn’t healthy and I’d imagine it’s not very relaxing. Plenty of people are sexually compatible, but don’t work together in a ­relationship. Maybe that’s you.

Make-up sex is always exciting, but then you get back into your old groove and become irritated.

I think this proves that sex alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship long term – there has to be more.

Let’s be honest, you shouldn’t have to break up with someone to want to rip their clothes off and all this splitting up sounds, quite frankly, exhausting.

So, maybe it’s time to either try some counselling to work on what’s causing these rows, or accept that you’re not compatible in other important areas to be happy together.

I’m afraid I tend to agree with your family and friends – it could be time to move on to a relationship that involves less drama, where you have more in common with your partner.