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Mum always tired after work didn't know why until life-changing diagnosis

A mum of two has said she never knew why she was always tired until after her life-changing diagnosis.

Carrie Kearns says she always knew she was different as she struggled to fit in throughout her life and considered herself a loner.

However, her perspective completely changed after being diagnosed with autism earlier this year.

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The 40-year-old from Bolton has revealed how" relieved" she felt following the discovery – and the difficulties she has faced along the way.

"Ever since I was a child, I noticed I was different," she told the Manchester Evening News.

"I didn't seem to be able to fit in with other children my age and I was always a bit of a loner playing out on my own; I was more interested in nature and playing with plants and bugs than the games my friends were playing.

"I was bullied a lot because I came across as weird. I never seemed to get them, the games they played or the way they spoke. There were a lot of misunderstandings because I would take things too deeply and miss the point.

"The way I would dress wasn't in line with the fashion at the time, and I wasn't dressing the same as other people. As I got older, I found work was difficult because I would get in trouble for speaking my mind. I was quite passionate, and it would come out as me being aggressive.

"I was so tired when I got back home from work. When I got diagnosed, I was told it was because I had been masking all day trying to fit in."

Autism is a complex, lifelong developmental disability that typically appears during early childhood and can impact a person's social skills, communication, relationships, and self-regulation.

Autistic people may find some aspects of communication and social interaction challenging.

They may also have difficulty relating to people and understanding their emotions, have inflexible thought patterns and behaviour, and carry out repetitive actions.

Carrie started to read up on autism after her young son was diagnosed.

She noticed similar traits within herself, especially from when she was growing up.

Carrie got the ball rolling with her GP and was officially diagnosed around six months later.

She said: "I read into autism, and it was the only thing that fit and made a lot of sense.

"You can't tell if someone is autistic, but you can tell there's something different about someone. My therapist said I was high-functioning because I have a husband and children.

"But when people say you're high-functioning, the reason the labels are so misleading are because it takes something away from the individual but doesn't speak for their troubles.

"I thought I was grumpy and snappy as a kid, but those moments were meltdowns when everything got a bit too much, and I was overwhelmed and overstimulated. That's why I found social interactions so exhausting.

"I was really lucky with the diagnosis because it didn't take that long. I was only waiting around six months which is absolutely amazing.

"It is a relief finding out you're autistic because you realise there's nothing wrong with me. I understand the way I think and the way I act, and I do things is normal for me, and it's okay to do those things and be that way."

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