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Danny Rigg & Graeme Murray

Woman who felt like 'imposter' her whole life handed shock diagnosis age 59

A woman who felt like an "imposter" her whole life finally understands after receiving a "shock" diagnosis aged 59.

Julia Hardman recalls a teacher and calling her "a numbskull, stupid and thick" because she "didn't learn like other kids".

The 62-year-old struggled to read and do multiplication tables and was put in the "dunce" class, aged 5.

This led to bullying and left her "humiliated and embarrassed".

The Liverpool Echo reports that in adulthood Julia from St Helens did jobs she excelled at, but still felt like a fake.

Julia said: "I've just thought I'm a bit of an imposter, just flying by the seat of my pants, not really understanding the problems with my short-term memory, my time blindness, I could go on and on."

Julia Hardman recalls being lampooned by teachers at school (Liverpool echo)
Julia did not discover her condition until the age of 59 (Colin Lane/Liverpool Echo)

Being diagnosed with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) was a revelation for Julia who finally understood why she was constantly fidgeting in school, it gave her the dopamine fix ADHD brains need.

The neurodevelopmental condition can cause higher levels of impulsivity and distractibility, as well as affecting memory, organisational skills, concentration, and the processing of emotions.

ADHD is thought to be equally common across sexes, but males are nearly three times more likely to be diagnosed than females, because the condition can present differently between the sexes.

People with ADHD are more likely to suffer from mental health conditions like depression, anxiety and substance abuse.

This is often caused by the negative self-image people with ADHD may have of themselves, stemming from failing to meet deadlines, remember obligations or follow instructions.

This can be even worse when the person has no diagnosis or understanding of how their brain works.

But adults can wait up to six or seven years for an assessment on the NHS , despite its obligation to provide specialist treatment within 18 weeks of a GP referral.

Julia had previously been diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia at the age of 43 while doing her first degree in psychology (Colin Lane/Liverpool Echo)

Appointments from private provider Psychiatry UK, paid for by the NHS on the Right to Choose scheme , currently have a waiting list of six months.

Julia had previously been diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia at the age of 43, while doing her first degree in psychology.

But there were still unanswered questions until her ADHD diagnosis which often co-exists with conditions like dyslexia and dyspraxia.

She said: "I'd never seen myself as ADHD. If I'm really truthful with you, it's only in the last three years I've really understood myself and understood why I do what I do."

Despite being branded "thick" as a child, Julia has always performed well at things she's passionate about, including her time working with Slimming World and studying psychology and social work.

She said: "What a lot of people don't understand with ADHD is, if I get something I'm really interested in - so if I'm doing a report, and I really like doing the report, I become so hyper-focused that I don't hear people. I just zone completely into my work.

"When I was doing all my studies, my husband used to have to say, 'Right, it's nine o'clock now, you're switching off', because I would just keep going and going and going, and just can carry on.

"It's that energy when I'm really interested in it. But if it was a maths exam, forget it - you'd lose me and I'd be zoning out."

Julia now uses Reiki, a Japanese therapy, to help her wind down and switch her brain off so she doesn't suffer burnout.

Learning coping strategies like this helps her do things she previously struggled with, which is something she helps others to do in her current role.

She gets "a lot of job satisfaction" from working as a therapist for the ADHD Foundation.

"Doing the job now, I feel really passionate about it because I've been in primary schools working with children, doing observations in classrooms, and I can see children are just not accessing their education because they can't do that concentration, she said. "And I was that child."

She added: "I feel sad that it's still happening today.

"I just think if the government actually put in the resources, and everyone got tested for every type of neurodiversity going at primary school, we wouldn't have the mental health issues that I'm dealing with in schools.

"I have lost count of how many children who have got some neurodiversity, but have gone under the radar.

"I work with a young person in college, clearly autistic, clearly ADHD, clearly got sensory issues, which comes with any neurodiversity.

"She's 17, how the heck has she got missed in the system? And her confidence, self-esteem and mental health were on the floor."

She was once in the same boat before the diagnosis changed her life.

But now, she said: "I embrace my quirky ways instead of berating myself."

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