Nothing hurts more than unreciprocated effort. In your mind, you probably go out of your way to make life easier for this individual; they are your person, after all. Your goal is to make them happy and comfortable whenever possible. But what happens when these good gestures are met with pushback? This is exactly what this Redditor had to deal with when her sister demanded she refund her for a slice of cake eaten by her teenage daughter who volunteers to babysit her cousin on the weekends.
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As beautiful and tasty as cake is, it can be the cause of so much drama
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The poster shared how her sister wanted a refund for cake slices that were eaten by her teenage daughter
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Apparently when she went babysitting, the author’s daughter ate 2 slices of leftover cake from the kitchen
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The sister demanded a refund, which the OP refused
The original poster (OP) is a single mother with a teenage daughter who lives near her sister’s family. The OP’s daughter, Carly, babysits her cousins on weekends while the OP’s sister and brother-in-law (BIL) are out. Carly volunteers to babysit, without pressure from her mom or aunt, because she likes the extra money without the hassle of getting a part-time job in retail, and the kids enjoy having her around.
Trouble arose when, after babysitting, the OP’s sister called her to say that a custom-made leftover cake from the OP’s niece’s birthday party was missing. Apparently, Carly had eaten two slices while babysitting.
The OP’s sister said Carly should have asked before eating the cake because it was expensive. The OP apologized, but her sister insisted on being compensated for it and was completely serious about it. The OP tried to lighten the mood by mentioning the cake might have gone bad if it wasn’t already stale, but clarified that she wouldn’t be giving her money for it. This didn’t amuse her sister, who claimed the OP was being inconsiderate.
Commenters had various viewpoints, with some suggesting the OP pay her sister back and tell Carly she won’t be babysitting without full and comparable compensation. Others argued that the cake wasn’t worth much, especially considering it was a two-week-old leftover.
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The sting of unreciprocated effort is a major source of the OP’s frustration. “As a family, you’re each other’s backbones; you rely on one another for support through the good times and the bad. So, when one of your family members comes to you, asking for a favor, you feel obligated to perform whatever it is,” Thriveworks explains. “That being said, it is crucial that when doing a favor becomes a reoccurring instance, boundaries are set—preferably before things get out of hand.”
HelpGuide.org highlights the value of conflict resolution skills in dealing with family challenges. “Conflict resolution skills can come in handy anytime you’re dealing with family drama. These skills involve managing stress in the moment, being aware of both your own emotions and the other person’s, and prioritizing resolution over winning the argument.”
But while at it, make peace with the fact that some people have viewpoints or priorities that may never match your own. Your adult children, siblings, or parents will do what they feel is right for them, and you can’t control their behavior. Try to treasure the relationship for what it is, or focus on other relationships that bring you joy.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Be sure to leave your takes and stories in the comment section below!
Readers called out the sister, claiming she was being petty
