A woman has been left outraged after her mother-in-law devised a 'test' to see whether she's good enough to marry her son.
The 27-year-old explained how she and her boyfriend have been house hunting - wanting to take their relationship to the next level.
They have also been browsing engagement rings - and loosely discussing the idea of one day starting a family together. However, she has been left questioning whether joining his family is the right move after his mum tried to "test" how she'd be as a wife.
Taking to Reddit, the woman said: "My boyfriend Eric, 29, and I have been dating for three years. I have met his family and they are friendly. We don't meet them very often because they live in my boyfriend's home country.
"While we were having dinner, we mentioned [moving in together] to his family as it's a big step in our relationship for us (we are not engaged yet.)
"His parents and brothers expressed their happiness for us then out of nowhere his youngest sister-in-law asked 'So is she going to take the test?'"
Confused, the woman asked "what test?" - and couldn't believe what she heard next.
"My boyfriend's family has this tradition where the future mother-in-law tests future daughters-in-law to see if they are good enough for her sons," she added.
The test includes how clean they can keep a home, how well they can cook, and their overall manners when in various situations.
"I found it ridiculous because if I'm good enough for my boyfriend, he should be the one deciding it and I don't fit in their targeted category.
"In his mum's words, you can't be a good stay-at-home-wife and stay-at-home-mum if you can't be a good homemaker and she wants to make sure of that."
She went on to explain how his mum expects her to quit her job to take on all the house work so her son can have an easier life.
She added: "His mum and all three of his brothers' wives are stay-at-home-mums and although I respect their choice, I am not quitting my career and did not under any circumstances make my boyfriend think I could compromise on that.
"I hate house chores and I would rather buy homemaking gadgets and hire staff no matter the cost than have to do chores myself.
"I told my boyfriend's mum all this and it caused an argument that eventually ruined dinner and in extension our visit."
She says her boyfriend "doesn't care" whether she goes out to work or becomes a stay-at-home wife - but believes she should have done the test because "it's just a test and it's not like they would have rejected her if she failed it".
"He thinks it's a fun tradition that everyone was looking forward to and I should have gone along with it anyways," she added.
Unable to agree, her boyfriend urged her to ask Reddit users for their thoughts.
In response, one user said: "Fine. Let him take a test. He can rotate the tires, change the oil and maybe rework the transmission on a car, install a new muffler while he's at it.
"Then he can perform a series of tests of lifting heavy objects. How are his plumbing skills? He's going to need to know how to fix a leaky faucet.
"Your father and brothers and male friends can judge him on his manliness and decide if he is prepared to be a 'proper' husband.
"He might also need to prove he makes enough money to support you for when you have to stay home and perform all those 'wifely' duties.
"What an obnoxious family."
Another user added: "I had a similar thought. I love traditions! Let's start new ones.
"The men in my family will drop you in the woods with no resources a few days' walk from civilisation.
"If you make it back, the men will be at a judges' table with score cards to judge your wounds, health, and weight of leftover hunting winnings.
"Hope you score above a five! Good luck!"
A third user said: "No chance would I have accepted this nonsense. My free time is valuable. Spending it proving myself to folks who should accept me unconditionally is not even close to making the cut."
One more user said: "It sounds demeaning and patronising as hell. If your boyfriend thinks you're good enough for him, you shouldn't have to prove yourself to anyone else."
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