A TikToker has opened up about the dark side to pretty privilege, saying her looks mean other women leave her out.
Sharing the video on TikTok, @arianasavannah opened the video by saying the topic is difficult to talk about, and she said she anticipated a reaction.
Although there are pros to pretty privilege, there is also “a bad side that no one talks about”, she said.
Ariana said that she has struggled to make girlfriends, particularly in college.
She continued: "College was really the hardest point for me but girls will always be like ‘oh my gosh, I love you so much, you’re so gorgeous, we’re gonna hang out.’ And the time comes around and I always am left out, and talked about poorly behind my back, and it never makes sense because I am always being so kind, so genuine."
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She added: “I’m honestly completely confident that it’s nothing to do with my personality at all.”
While at college she would go home at the weekends, and cry to her mother and tell her family about her difficulty making friends.
She said: "They were like Ari, it’s so obvious. And I’m like well f***ing tell me because I’m missing something, it’s not adding up, I don’t know what’s going on. They were like you don’t understand how people see you.
“So they start telling me like Ari, people don’t like to not be the prettiest person in the room, and I’m like what are you talking about? Because that’s not something I think about. B*****s are all pretty, I love women, everyone is a bad b**** in their own way.”
Her family said she can be intimidating and that can make people uncomfortable.
She said: "If you know me, you know I don’t carry myself that way, I was so confused and thought this probably is not true, there is no way this is the reason my whole life I can’t make girlfriends."
The video, which has since been made private, was viewed over two million times, with a follow-up video receiving more than 350,000 views.
In the later video, she said she has now found a group of guys that have become her best friends.
Ariana isn’t the first TikToker to speak about the downsides of pretty privilege.
TikToker @tabithaamaraa said people may assume you’re “stuck up”, and other women may see you as “competition”.
“If you ask for opinions on clothing, hairstyles, they [other women] might lie to you because they don’t want you to look better than them,” she said.
Another TikToker, @walmart_tanamongeau uploaded a video called “the ugly side of pretty privilege” and listed several cons on-screen.
These included other females not liking you, needing male validation, and “people only liking you for how you look”.
This isn’t the only video we’ve seen recently in which people discuss how someone’s appearance can impact their day-to-day. Three days ago a restaurant worker revealed how her boss asks her to seat “ugly” people in the back of the restaurant.
