Helping your kid organize a birthday party is a very normal and reasonable thing to do. Unless your child is a budding socialite, they will normally invite a handful of friends. So getting an invitation demand, out of the blue, from a random third party is not something anyone expects to happen.
A woman wondered if she went overboard with her “revenge” on a nosy and pushy teacher. Instead of the two friends her son invited to his birthday party, his teacher demanded that the mom include 32 kids. We reached out to the mom in the story via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Most parents will set certain limits for parties due to the space they have at home
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But one mom perhaps went overboard when her son’s teacher started demanding she invite 32 kids
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Just because you are someone’s teacher, doesn’t mean you have any say in their birthday
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There is no denying that a child should be forced to invite multiple unwanted guests just because some random other party wants it. Similarly, a teacher can’t suddenly start dictating what this mom can and can’t do at home. This is simply not how anything works. After all, her somehow penalizing a newly turned nine year old over this is absurd. It’s like walking up to your neighbors and hammering on their door to demand they change the wallpaper.
So the teacher’s request is entitled, weird and pretty self-important. Indeed, the fact that the mom started by reasoning with her instead of immediately laughing says a lot. Truthfully, most people simply do not have the space, nor mental capacity to host over thirty kids at a time. While it might do wonders for the number of gifts “Sam” gets, it also seems like he is entirely disinterested in having all these random classmates over.
This is all to say that this teacher appears to be having a power trip about birthday rules she invented without any power to implement, and then proceeds to apartment-shame a mom for a lack of space. While there is a kernel of “good intentions” here, it seems nearly impossible to justify her actions. In other words, the teacher would rather attempt to enforce fake rules than allow a boy to have the birthday he wants.
“Leaking” someone’s address is no laughing matter
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So the real question is whether the mom went overboard with her “revenge.” First of all, asking the teacher to host, if it truly was such a big deal, is a solid move. It fits perfectly with her twisted logic and it would be a small sacrifice to make, if it’s so vitally important that all the kids end up included.
However, on the other hand, searching her address is one thing, when you’re seeing red the feeling is that anything goes. Then writing it in an email and sending it out to a huge amount of people is just too far. Accidentally leaking someone’s address is generally terrible at the best of times, doing it on purpose is very mean. After all, this mom could have simply told the teacher no, there was nothing she could have done about it.
Instead, the very threat of this sort of retaliation is just excessive. This is the sort of thing that will color her relationship with this teacher forever. Look from the teacher’s perspective, setting aside the bizarre birthday request, this woman is suddenly threatening you with an inflammatory email about inviting kids over. What if this isn’t even her rule, but something the school forces her to do? What if she was under pressure from previous experiences? These sorts of threats are just excessive.
Many readers thought everyone was sort of being a jerk
A few thought she went way too far
But some saw where she was coming from
