If you’ve ever been curious about the many shrewd social tricks and tactics the royals have picked up over the years, Sarah Ferguson is sharing some of the fool-proof lessons she learnt from the best. Whether that’s knowing how to cleverly dodge an awkward question or making others think you were at an event longer than you actually were, they’re surprisingly useful nuggets of wisdom.
- Sarah Ferguson, the Duchess of York, has shared some excellent, royal-approved tips for awkward social encounters
- The Duchess shared the tips – including how to avoid answering a question you don’t want to engage with – on her podcast
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Royals engage in all sorts of social activity, day after day. So it’s no surprise they’ve picked up some clever tricks for avoiding uncomfortable questions or learning how to properly get away with leaving a party early without offending anyone.
And, thanks to the Duchess of York, we get to share in some of the knowledge too.
Sarah Ferguson recently shared these royal approved tricks and tips for exiting a conversation on the latest episode of her podcast, Tea Talks with the Duchess and Sarah.
While chatting with co-host Sarah Thomson, the Duchess – who is recovering from breast cancer surgery - was asked how she and her fellow royals politely excused themselves from a party.
Sarah explained, “Well, it depends which country you’re in. There’s all different cultures which you must always be aware of, and I love that.”
“If you’re in British Downton Abbey, you get to a point when you say: ‘One second, could you hold that thought because I’ve just got to go and see Fred over there because I’ve got to give him a message.’ And by the time that the person you’re talking to has gone onto the next subject, they’ve forgotten that you were coming back to tell something about Fred.”
The Duchess’ next tip was particularly intriguing, and we have no doubts she’s sharing it from vast experience too, as it involves dodging questions you’d prefer not to answer.
When asked how to swerve a particularly unwelcome question, Sarah explained, “If someone asks you a tricky question that you don’t want to answer, say: ‘Oh that’s so interesting, I’ll tell you what, I’m going to throw that question to Matilda. Matilda, what do you think about that question?’”
A third and final bit of insight is one which can definitely come in handy when you over-book yourself.
If you know you’ve got other engagements, how do you make your hosts or other guests feel like you have been at the party for a decent amount of time?
Sarah’s royal lessons suggest you just make sure you’re extra “loud” when you’re actually there.
She explains, “If you’re really busy and you have three parties a night and don’t know how you’re going to manage, you walk through the door very loudly and walk all the way around the room.”
“And you’re so loud, then you leave after five minutes so everyone will say: ‘Oh, I didn’t see Sarah tonight,’ and everyone in the room says: ‘Oh, we did!’”
“The guest thinks you’ve been there all night,” she added.
Clever! And perfect for those nights you want to slip out without seeming rude.
While not a rule per se, Sarah also explained the one rule she passed down to her daughters, Princesses Eugenie and Beatrice.
“I always say to my girls, when you’re out on the public stage, smile. If you don’t want to be polite, don’t go out on the public stage - because no one wants to see a grumpy princess.”
Did anyone ever share that lesson with famously sassy and short-tempered Princess Margaret..?
