Ben Ofoedu says he is now homeless after being turfed out of the house following his cheating ways.
Vanessa Feltz's ex-fiance, who she had been with for 16 years, confessed to a 'sexting' relationship with a fan of his band Phats and Small.
He's also admitted he slept with an older woman three times whilst in Ibiza and kept it a secret from Vanessa for months, describing the ordeal as a 'chore'.
The Mirror reports that Vanessa was distraught when he did eventually come clean, but decided to forgive him. The pair didn't tell anyone about the illicit encounter for eight years, only revealing it to the public this week.
Now, Ben has spoken out about how he's lost the "love of his life", as he said: "I’ve broken her trust. She gave me another chance. I’ve gone and destroyed that."
It was on Christmas Day that Vanessa discovered her fiancè was secretly sexting a younger female fan on Instagram who had been sending him naked pictures.
And another woman also got in touch with the This Morning presenter, saying how Ben had been flirting with her at a Butlins gig back in December.
It was the last straw for mum-of-two Vanessa - whose ex husband Michael Krurer cheated on her - who told Ben to leave their £3.5million north London home.
“So many people have been hurt, not just Vanessa. I was so close to her grandchildren, her daughters, their husbands. We’re a close knit family. My family have been appalled by it as well. There’s been a lot of pain," Ben told.
The pair met in 2001 and began a relationship in 2005, getting engaged a year later.
But Ben began to pull away from Vanessa last year as he turned to drink while dealing with the ill health and death of his brother Roy.
In the spring he struck up an initially innocent friendship with a fan over social media. But it eventually turned into more, leading to suggestive messages and nude pictures.
Nine months of messaging up to three times a week - Vanessa caught sight of them on Christmas Day while Ben was in panto in Southsea, Hampshire, and later called him out.
“Vanessa saw the messages,” he told. “I was sex texting somebody. It was the last straw. It’s well documented that Vanessa’s been hurt before in marriage, by infidelity, and she couldn’t take anymore.
“The sexting came about from a woman that was following me on Instagram. She started complimenting me and we built a friendship. She first messaged about nine months ago. We’d message once a week, then twice, three times a week, then a nude.
"I never sent one back. She said ‘Oops, sorry’. I should have blocked her but I didn’t. I said ‘It doesn’t matter’.
"She asked me what I thought and I didn’t answer. A week later another one came through. Then we’d sent flirty messages back and forth. When you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t be talking to someone who your other half doesn’t know about. I can’t justify it, I knew I was in the wrong.
"I felt guilty but it was a light hearted relief and distraction which turned into a monster and destroyed my life.”
Ben says he has been doing lots of soul searching since Vanessa split with him three weeks ago and he has since been living with a church friend in London.
"She asked me what I thought and I didn’t answer. A week later another one came through. Then we’d sent flirty messages back and forth. When you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t be talking to someone who your other half doesn’t know about. I can’t justify it, I knew I was in the wrong.
"I felt guilty but it was a light hearted relief and distraction which turned into a monster and destroyed my life.”
Ben says he has been doing lots of soul searching since Vanessa split with him three weeks ago and he has since been living with a church friend in London.
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