Well, it’s been a big year for Aussies in the bedroom. And I promise I’m not just basing that on my own personal experience or the many, many stories my friends have told me after a few filthy martinis.
According to Durex’s 2025 Australian Sex Survey — which seeks results from 1,000 Aussies from a range of age demographics, locations, gender identities and sexualities — Australians are getting more adventurous in their sex lives.
Can I get a hallelujah?
What did the survey actually reveal?
The survey revealed all sorts of juicy things, but the biggest revelation was that attitudes to sex are changing. Although most Australians still consider vaginal (93 per cent), oral (80 per cent) and anal sex (72 per cent) as sex, more people are opening up their definitions to include intimate touching (61 per cent), masturbation with a partner (57 per cent) and using a sex toy with a partner (58 per cent) under the ‘sex’ umbrella.
Solo play has also been included in people’s definitions of sex, with 30 per cent of people including masturbation in their definition of sex.
The survey also stated that 59 per cent of people are more open to trying new positions than they were five years ago and 57 per cent feel more comfortable discussing their sexual preferences openly. Meanwhile, 28 per cent of people surveyed revealed that they were more curious about exploring things like BDSM, kink play and/or polyamory than they were five years ago.
If you want to get really down and dirty with the numbers, the findings also revealed that Tasmanians have more sex week on average than any other state. Tassie citizens are boning 1.9 times a week, followed by SA (1.6), WA (1.4), NSW (1.4), Vic (1.3), ACT (1,2) and NT (0.7).
Tasmanians were also reported having more pleasurable sex over the last five years than the other states. It’s not a competition or anything but they don’t call them the Tassie devils for nothing, do they?
So, what’s causing this change in attitude?
The newfound zest for between-the-sheets adventure hasn’t come out of nowhere.
According to sexologist and leading sex and relationship therapist Selina Nguyen, the Durex survey findings are a symptom of changing attitudes around sex to be less gendered and heteronormative, with 32 per cent of the 1000 Australians interviewed noting that the shift in attitudes towards sex, gender and sexuality was influenced by the “increase visibility and representation of LGBT+ communities”.
In other words, the queer folks are leading the charge!!! What’s new, baby?
“I believe a big part of it comes down to a lot more conversations and normalisation around sex, pleasure and diversity,” Selina told PEDESTRIAN.TV.
“Whether that’s through the celebration of queerness, seeing sex more front and centre in the media, or more conversations with friends, every time we talk about these topics in sex-positive and supportive ways, we remove some of the shame and mystery around it.
“In doing so, we also open the door to more questions and curiosity, which is often where interests in these areas like kink or non-monogamy start.”
Selina says the accessibility of sex education at our fingertips on the internet has been a game changer.
“Now you can look online and instantly find an article on ’10 new ways to explore kink’ or ‘top five non-monogamy myths’ and for these articles to also be created by folks who know what they’re talking about and have experience in it,” they said.
“Having this education is important for us to feel comfortable and competent to try new things in the bedroom.”
According to Selina, it’s only natural that queer folk — who have been creating their own path in all walks of culture, sexuality and society — have influenced the straights to open their minds from heteronormative sexual scripts.
“Queer folks are often leading the charge because we’ve had to create our own sexual scripts around how sex goes, what it means, and what’s possible because the traditional scripts that we’ve been culturally taught that “penis in vagina = sex” no longer makes sense when you have to add or minus certain body parts from that equation,” Selina explains.
“So much of queerness is also a celebration and reclamation of who you are and what you want, not only inside the bedroom but also outside of it.
“For us to witness that, there’s something incredibly inspiring and motivating to see folks explore and own who they are, regardless of sexuality, gender, race or ability.”
We love to see it!!!
So, with that in mind, I think we should all open our minds and take some wisdom from our tiny freaky queen Sabrina Carpenter and ask our partner (or sex toy, whatever): “Have you ever tried this one?”.
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