A woman who fell pregnant with twins after dating a man for three months was left baffled after his ex-girlfriend demanded that she give her one of the babies. The mum-to-be had already split up with her partner when she discovered her situation and he had gotten back together with an old flame.
The woman assumed the man wouldn't want much to do with the babies as he was in a new relationship but he was reportedly "ecstatic" as his partner had struggled with fertility and he had always wanted to have kids. The expectant mother was happy to have him in their kids' lives until the man's girlfriend began acting as if the twins were her own and the pregnant woman was simply a surrogate for them, the Mirror reports.
To make matters even worse, she then demanded that the woman hand over one of her babies to her. And she posted on Facebook that she and her partner were expecting twins "the non traditional way" and also threw a gender reveal party without inviting the expectant mother.
Taking to Reddit, the 29-year-old mum-to-be wrote: "I dated a guy Joe (30M) for three months before he left me to go back to his ex Kim. Right after we broke up, I found out I was pregnant and I'm now 24 weeks. I let him know and he was ecstatic. Turns out his girlfriend had fertility issues and would likely never be able to get pregnant naturally and he has always wanted to be a father.
"Getting back together was out of the question for both of us so he's still with his girlfriend. We found out I was having twins. According to Joe, when he told Kim she had a mental breakdown about her infertility and wanted to talk to me.
"I met them at their house and Kim stated that she wanted to be involved in my pregnancy because she would eventually be the children's stepmother. She started telling me that I needed to do a home birth, that I needed to formula feed so that they could have the babies half of the week and that she wanted one boy and one girl.
"And she said that she wanted the kids to call her Mama since they would be calling me Mommy. I shut her down and said I would make the best choices for my children and my body and left."
However, Kim didn't back down and instead started texting her every day to complain about her diet and exercise and moaning that her job wouldn't allow her to take maternity leave as she wasn't the one who was pregnant.
The pregnant woman continued: "At the virtual genetics counselling appointment, she attended instead of Joe and took over the whole meeting trying to talk about her family history which wasn’t relevant. When it came time for my 20-week level two scan, they allowed me one guest and Joe suggested I take Kim instead of him, which I refused to do.
"Joe did end up coming and he found out the gender because I wanted to keep it a surprise for me so we could throw a gender reveal party. I put a pregnancy announcement on my social media and then she put up an announcement saying they were expecting twins 'the non-traditional way' and how blessed she was.
"I was irritated but I kept my mouth shut. Then she threw a gender reveal party and posted it on social media. I wasn’t even invited. She also announced that she's having a baby shower."
The angry woman eventually snapped and commented on Kim's posts to tell her to stop treating her like a "surrogate" and that the kids were not hers. She added that Joe didn't have any 'claim' on her babies until they were born.
She continued: "I then called Joe and reiterated all of this and stated that I would not be seeing either of them until we went to family court and that my mother would be my birthing partner. He and Kim and some of her friends and family are saying I’m an a**hole and her mother even called and insisted I give her one of my babies like this is the Parent Trap? So AITA?"
Thousands of horrified people flocked to the comments to share their concerns over Kim's 'disturbing' behaviour as many urged the mum to seek legal help immediately. One person replied: "Kim's mother suggesting they split the twins between parents?!?!? WTHF."
Another said: "I'm not being dramatic in any way when I say this get a lawyer now . Keep records of everything, and whatever you do, do not allow yourself to be alone with Kim. Almost none of Kim's behaviour is ok, it's in fact disturbing. Block phone numbers, file a police report for harassment if you have to. Keep yourself and your children safe."
A third advised: "OP [original poster] was right when she said she wasn't being treated as a mother, but the surrogate. I would go so far as to say the twins are seen as objects as well. OP needs to lawyer up and play hardball about custody. Kim's not going to get better here, she has people enabling her behaviour."
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