A mum has questioned if she is being unreasonable after not wanting her four month old daughter to sleep over at her mother in law's house. The mother in law created a new bedroom for her granddaughter and asked to start sleep overs as soon as possible.
Taking to online parenting forum, Mumsnet, MollyPocket wrote: "We went to PIL (parent in law) for lunch on New Year’s Day and MIL (mother in law) announced that she wanted to show us something upstairs. So we followed her and she proceeded to do a grand reveal of our daughter’s new bedroom, all bedecked with pink princesses and unicorns (not my taste but clearly a lot of effort gone in).
"She proceeded to request we make a start with her first sleepover next week. DD (darling daughter) is just turning 4 months and getting her to bed is challenging at the moment (often resorting to co sleeping) so I was a bit shocked and felt she’d jumped the gun a bit. We haven’t even discussed sleepovers yet."
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The mum went on to say that she told her mother in law that the bedroom looked great but it was too soon to have sleepovers. Molly added: "Later on she texted me to say she was upset as she had put in a lot of effort and was so looking forward to regular sleepovers. She asked when we could start. I said that as DD is breastfed and often co sleeps it won’t be for quite some time.
"Yesterday I thought about it and felt bad for MIL and started to think maybe in a couple of months if DD will take a bottle and isn’t co sleeping so often we could try it and see how it goes."
Yet Molly then caught sight of a text message on her husband's phone from the mother in law. Molly admits she read the conversation even though she knew she shouldn't.
She said: "MIL actually said to DH (darling husband) that ‘he mustn’t let me carry on breastfeeding longer than necessary in order to keep DD from doing overnights at their house’! In a previous text she’d told him she had hoped to be doing overnights 1-2 times a week (erm, nope).
"DH had been trying to temper to situation and told her we’d let her know when we’re ready, but the way I feel now I’m not sure I ever will be! DH and I are homebodies so while the time might come that we want a babysitter for the odd night out, it hasn’t even occurred to us yet. If she doesn’t calm down I’ll be asking my own parents to do it.
"However I have never limited their daytime visits - although I am always there as I don’t want people taking her without me yet.
Am I being unreasonable or is she just nuts?"
Fellow mumsnet users expressed their thoughts to Molly. Slashbeef said: "She's a little baby! Breastfeed as long as you want to and stand firm on the sleepovers until you're comfortable. She shouldn't even be in a separate bedroom now anyway so it's a moot point. Just tell her that."
LolaSmiles added: "Do what you and DH feel is right for your daughter. She's a real baby and person in her own right, not a living doll to be passed around because MIL wants a turn with the new toy."
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