We all know the unspoken rule that says you should never announce a significant life event like pregnancy or an engagement at someone else's wedding, but what about attending a wedding when you're already pregnant? For many brides and grooms that wouldn't seem like a big deal, but to some others, it can be seen as "upstaging".
One bride has even gone so far as to tell her sister that she isn't allowed to start trying for a baby until after she's tied the knot, as she doesn't want there to be any chance of her being pregnant at her wedding. The woman explained that she got married in June and is now looking to start a family with her husband, but her sister has demanded she wait until after her wedding next year - which the woman thinks is "unfair".
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In a post on Reddit, she claimed: "My older sister is getting married in June 2023. My husband and I just got married in June this year. We have been together for almost 9 years, own a house together, have a fur baby together, and we are at a point where we feel ready to grow our family.
"I am going to be a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding and I really do want to be able to enjoy the day and not be uncomfortably pregnant. But she does not want me to be pregnant at all and wants me to wait until after her wedding to start trying.
"I personally feel it's an unfair request to make two people put their life on hold for your one day. Her wedding day is important to me and I love my sister so much. We definitely wouldn't put ourselves in a position where we could be 8 or 9 months pregnant at her wedding because I would never want to risk missing her wedding.
"But at the same time, it can take couples months or years to conceive … and I feel like you just can't ask this of someone. I told her how I felt but she keeps telling me 'please don’t try to get pregnant until after my wedding'.
"We wanted to start trying in November or December, and now I’m worried that if I do fall pregnant within a couple of months of trying, she will not be happy for me and I don't know how we would even tell her."
Commenters on the Reddit post were equally baffled by the bride's request, as many of them said she has "no control" over her sister's body, meaning the woman who wrote the post should be free to try for a baby whenever she feels ready.
One person said: "Your sister is being completely nuts. She has no control over your body or your decision about when to get pregnant. Nod politely and then do whatever you want. What is she going to do if you get pregnant?"
While another added: "That's totally unfair and unreasonable! Have it your way."
And a third posted: "That is a completely unreasonable request. My sister got pregnant and was due two weeks before my wedding and you know what? We adjusted. She sat in the front row with her new baby. Life happens."
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