When it comes to weddings and the various events associated with them, there are some rules that just aren't meant to be broken. Many of these are unspoken rules that we would just assume, or hope, others would be aware of to avoid a faux pas.
But sometimes, the people you invite don't quite get the memo. It's even more awkward if they're a family member or someone hoping to become a family member.
We all know by now you don't wear white to a wedding. It's also pretty common to avoid it for things such as the hen do or rehearsal dinner, since white is traditionally reserved for the bride. But for one bride-to-be, she found herself absolutely gobsmacked at what her brother's girlfriend decided to wear on her hen do.
Taking to Reddit to share her tale of woe, the poster explained how her brother 'John' had asked her to include his girlfriend 'Sarah' as a bridesmaid. She said it was "a way to get her involved with [their] family since he wants to propose soon."
A perfectly sweet gesture, but the poster wasn't thrilled. Sarah is described as "quite snobbish, almost in a comically villainous way" - definitely not someone who could cause drama...
Despite her feelings about Sarah, the bride-to-be agreed to include her potential future sister-in-law. On the last night of the hen do, the group went out for a fancy meal that they'd all saved up for.
"Sarah said she had to take an emergency work meeting and for us to go ahead first", explained the Reddit user.
Arriving after everyone else, Sarah made quite the entrance.
"I was FLOORED," wrote the poster. "She came in a white sparkly sequin number with a tulle skirt and a tiara."
Yes, a full-blown tiara to the fancy dinner on a hen do that wasn't even her own. On its own, that's quite the statement, but paired with the white ensemble, she was apparently looking "so bridal" the waitress asked the group if they were having a joint bachelorette party, according to the poster.
The maid of honour usually has quite the hand in organising the hen do, putting in the work behind the scenes to make sure the experience is memorable and to help capture those precious memories in the best way. In this case, the maid of honour had "made it abundantly clear that everyone was supposed to wear pink" so the group could "get a really cute photo together at the restaurant."
So when Sarah turned up wearing white sequins and tulle with a tiara, the bride-to-be was not happy.
"I was so upset, that when it came time to take photos I absolutely refused to have Sarah in them," she wrote.
Sarah apparently said it "wasn't her fault because she 'didn't get the memo'", but the poster told her it was "common sense to not wear a bridal looking dress to a bachelorette party if you're not the bride!"
The poster also pointed out that there was a group chat for the event, which Sarah had participated in, making comments about another girl's outfit for the night.
"All of my friends were on my side and they made sure she didn't end up in the photos," wrote the poster. But, she said: "When we got home, she pitched a fit to my brother saying that we bullied her at my party and deliberately left her out.
"She was also p***ed because a lot of family and friends noticed she wasn't in the photos and I wasn't afraid to tell them exactly why."
Now, the poster says her brother is "really upset" because Sarah has been "crying and whining about it nonstop". The couple are both apparently "so mad" that they won't be attending Father's Day brunch.
Seeking advice from the people of Reddit, the poster said: "I'm starting to feel bad because my mum told me that my brother and Sarah were fighting a lot now, so I'm not sure if I'm being the AH here.
"My brother called me a bridezilla, but I really feel like Sarah was trying to ruin my night."
The people of Reddit were quick to jump to the bride-to-be's defence. Many pointed out that while the white sequin outfit was in poor taste, it was the tiara that "seals it" and makes it obvious it was "no accident."
One user warned that this could be a foreshadowing of behaviour to come. "A TIARA and a TULLE SKIRT? All in white? Someone was clearly jealous of the attention you were getting," they wrote.
"If the drama continues, I would reduce the size of the bridal party by one. Lord knows what kind of stunt she would pull on the wedding day."
Another said: "I'd remove her immediately from the bridal party. She sounds like someone who would 'accidentally trip' and spill something on a white dress.
"I wouldn't put it past her to demand he proposes during your reception. Good luck with this one."
