Each person's name is individual, and they're named what they are for a reason. Whether their name has been chosen because their parents both just really liked it, or they've been named after a much-loved relative who has passed, it's nobody's business to decide who has a "terrible" name.
But one woman made it her business when she kept using her sister-in-law's name as an example of a "stupid non-name" when discussing what to name her baby.
Rightly, the sister-in-law was furious and felt like she had to confront her "bully" relative about what she was saying about her unique moniker.
The woman took to Reddit to vent about what she'd had to put up with over the years.
She wrote: "My name is Wren (26f) and I am married to Jax (26m). We have been together since we were 19. I have known his family almost the whole length of that and generally, we are close. The exception is his sister Katherine.
"She has this thing against my name and whenever she wants to give an example of a terrible name, she uses my name Wren as the example.
The first time it happened my husband and I were still only dating, it was a few months into our relationship and Katherine was expecting her first baby and over dinner blurted out while she and her husband were debating names that she was open to a lot as long as the name was not dumb like Wren.
"My husband and his parents called her out. She dismissed them."
She continued to "disrespect her name" though, and her husband even had to call her out again. The sister-in-law said she wanted a "normal name" not something "cool, edgy, or different", and her husband said: "that's not for us to decide but Wren doesn't need to come into it."
The original poster explained that sometimes her sister-in-law still digs at her about her unique name, but not as much, but things really boiled over at a recent family event.
She continued: "Last Saturday we were at my husband's parents' house. I was with my child and Katherine was trying to settle her two younger kids. Another family member came in, someone I don't know so well, and they were talking, and the family member was asking for advice on naming the baby she was expecting, and Katherine yet again used Wren as an example of a terrible name.
"Only this time she went a little harder on her hate for the name and she said it was ridiculous, a non-name, and parents should have their kids taken away for ruining their kids. I stepped in and told her she hates my name, I get it, but she needs to stop using my name as her example for bad names every time. That I still love my name and do not want to hear her diss it, and that I did not want to hear her diss my parents by saying something like she just had.
"The cousin was shocked that Katherine did that and left. Katherine told me I could not police her thoughts or words and I was incredibly entitled to tell her what she can and cannot say. My husband heard her yelling and came in and said we should leave. He told Katherine she went too far. She still says I was the one who way overstepped."
In the comments, people were shocked that her husband's sister was so malicious, and they wondered how she'd kept her cool with her so far.
One wrote: "Not the a**hole. She's a horrible bully. Why the insistence on insulting you at every occasion? It sounds like bullying and there is no excuse. However much she might hate your name, why would she tell you repeatedly? It's unnecessary and so mean. Imagine how she'd react if you kept laughing at her name and calling it too traditional and stuffy. By the way, Wren is such a pretty name. Much nicer than Katherine."
Another said: "You should have stood up for yourself a long time ago. It's nice that your husband and his family stand up for you every time she says something but you are the target of her bullying.
"Bullies don't stop until their targets show them they aren't afraid of them. You are an adult who gets to choose who you are around. You should let it be known if she can't keep your name out of her mouth then she doesn't get to be around you or your kids.
"The last thing you want is for your children to observe you allowing someone to disrespect you. You don't want the to grow up thinking it's OK for family members to bully them."
Someone else sympathised, commenting: "She's incredibly insecure around you. Your name is prettier than hers and she probably thinks you're 'cooler' and 'edgier' than she is. So she disses you every chance she gets to try and make herself feel better.
"You're not the a**hole - she's an insecure bully doing what bullies have always done. Wren is a beautiful name and your parents were very thoughtful giving you a unique and lovely name."
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