A mum-to-be has been urged to take a stand against her husband after he refused to allow her to be involved in the naming of their unborn daughter.
On social forum Reddit, the woman explained that her partner decided on the name of their daughter early on in her pregnancy, as it was a sentimental nod to a friend he lost in the Army.
When the mum requested to choose the middle name, her partner was adamant that it was to be named after his mother. She he refused 20 different names she suggested - and that he even refused to allow his partner to choose the unborn child's surname.
The woman asked for advice on the situation as she wrote: "I am currently nearly full term (35 weeks) and the conversation of what to name our daughter has been brought up a few times this week and it’s always ended in an argument.
"The name of our daughter was decided quite early on in my pregnancy and it was my partners idea for the name choice, she is being named after my partners friend who sadly passed away while serving in the British Army.
"I wasn’t too sure on the name when I first heard it but it did grow on me after a few weeks and he also turned down every single name I mentioned - when I say close to 20 different names - and he didn’t like any of them he was pretty much set on naming her after his late friend.
"The idea of middle names got brought up and he straight away said that his mum would be happy if we gave her his mother's middle name and I didn’t hate that idea but what I didn’t like is how he said it like he expected me to agree.
"I’ve never had an issue with his side of the family they are nice and friendly people very easy to get along with never had any issues.
"I told my partner that either I picked her middle name or she didn’t have one because he choose her first name, and also I’m not a huge fan of the middle name in question but that’s not the point."
The woman continued: "He straight away turned it down and said his mum told him how happy she would be if our daughter got her middle name and I just don’t agree with that.
"I also gave him another opinion our daughter can have his mum's middle name but she gets my last name and again he didn’t agree.
"I stated well she just doesn’t get one then if we cannot agree and he said how his whole family has a tradition where everybody must have a middle name.
"Am I being responsible with my arguments or am I not being responsible whatsoever??"
Readers came to the defence of the mum-to-be, and pointed out the red flags in the man's behaviour.
One Reddit user wrote: "This is because he does expect you to agree. In fact, he expects you to agree with all his opinions and none of yours. You do see that, right?
"I'd die on this hill as he clearly has no respect for your opinion on this topic."
Another said: "He is not allowing you to have an opinion or contribute to your own daughter’s name. He is trying to use guilt to get his way. (Dead friend, mom would be soo happy.) One has to wonder what other choices he takes away from you that are not quite as glaringly obvious?"
And a third wrote: "You're willing to compromise. Your partner is not. Don't be a doormat."
More comments read: "Why does he get to decide all names? Honestly I wouldn’t want to be with a man that wouldn’t meet me in the middle with something like this. I would stand my ground on her getting my last name."
And one added: "He shouldn't expect you to be happy with everything he wants. It's not just his child, but yours too. You should have a choice!"
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