A concerned mother has explained her stressful ordeal online after her husband is evidently lacking excitement for the arrival of their first child.
The pregnant woman claimed that her partner couldn't wait to start a family, but his mood quickly deteriorated upon the reveal that his wife was eating for two.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, the anonymous user sought advice on how to proceed with the complicated dilemma after admitting that she's contemplated divorce.
She explained: "I (28) and my husband (38) are together since 2015 and married since 2020. Shortly after we started dating in 2015 we moved abroad and since then we were travelling all around Europe and basically just having fun, living totally carefree."
"However, we decided that one day we would like to have a child - he already has a child from a previous relationship. It [should] maybe be a red flag that he doesn't really care about his son, he says he loves him dearly and he buys him presents, but when we lived abroad he saw his son maybe two times a year for a few days only.
"When it comes to raising his son, he always was saying 'I believe his mother and her new husband can raise him right', and that's it. He did not care much about how he is raised."
Regardless of his relationship with his first child, the woman claimed that her partner admitted that he couldn't wait to start a family.
The pair got married in 2020 - and fast forward to today, the woman is now six months pregnant and is expecting a baby boy.
The woman explained further: "And here is where the issue is starting. As mentioned, we lived abroad, and because of the pregnancy, we decided to move back to our home country. When my father heard that I am pregnant he gave me one of his apartments (my father is well off and he owns several properties in our city).
"It was very important for me - at the time I thought that it was equally important for both of us - that I will give my child a stable home, own roof over his head, and be able to pay for all his needs. I knew I [would] be not able to do so while living abroad. So we both decided that the best will be to move back home to start a family."
Unfortunately, the husband 'hates living in the hometown' and isn't currently employed despite having 'plenty of job offers'.
Detailing her stressful situation, the woman said: "I do all cleaning and cooking, and sometimes I am so tired that I need to decide if after work I want to shower or eat because I am so exhausted that I can't do both.
"I thought we [were] on the same page, and we are sacrificing our carefree lives abroad so our son can have happy childhood where all his needs are met, where he can be raised in a nice loving environment, where he can receive a good education, etc. I said to my husband many times, once our child is grown and living on his own, we always can just pack our things and move again.
"But I did not expect him to be so annoyed by living in his own city, where he was born and where he has his family. He hates everything - people, how the building looks like, the food, our apartment, the fact that he needs to sometimes meet with his or my family, simply everything is p***ing him off."
After stressing the difficulties to her father about her and her husband's marriage, she was left with multiple questions.
She wrote: "How I can make him feel better? Why he is not happy about the baby? Why he is not glad to sacrifice a few years of his life for a child he 'wanted so much'? Isn't it something that parents should do? I also don't like living in my home town, I also would never come back if I don't want to have any children.
"But I am happy to sacrifice travelling and having carefree life so my child can have stable childhood surrounded by a loving family. I really thought we are on the same page... apparently, we aren't.
"Of course, I thought about divorce, but I don't want to rush such an extreme decision, first I would like to try to help my husband. But how?"
Seeking advice, the woman questioned: "What I can do if he is full of negative emotions and he hates everything? When I ask him if he hates also me and the baby, he says no, that he loves us and we are the only joy in his life.
"But I can see in his eyes how unhappy he is. I really don't know how to change this situation..." She added.
Since sharing her concerns, the Reddit user's post has raked in over 100 comments to date - where fellow Redditors rushed to the comment section to discuss the difficult ordeal.
One woman sympathised with the mum-to-be by sharing her own story: "My ex was exactly like this. As soon as I fell pregnant he completely changed. He wasn't excited at all."
Meanwhile, someone else wrote: "This man is an immature child. If he gets a job he will have more structure and discipline in his life."
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