A fed-up woman says her husband is refusing to stick to the dress code for her brother's upcoming wedding, and she now fears she'll be too embarrassed to sit next to him.
According to this frustrated 31-year-old, her 40-year-old husband "hates wearing suits", and claims "they make him uncomfortable". He never wears a tie, and on the rare occasions he sports a button-up shirt, he won't tuck it in.
For their own wedding, a year and a half ago, he wore a "very nice suit", without a tie. She didn't push him on the tie issue too much after he refused and says he "looked really good on the day" regardless.
The couple, who've been together for three years, have attended around a dozen weddings together. While the majority of couples haven't specified dress codes, the wife says getting dressed up for weddings is the norm in their culture.
She'll usually go for "very formal" attire, while her "stubborn" husband will opt for an untucked button-up shirt with chinos, sometimes finished off with a casual blazer.
Taking to Reddit, the unnamed woman wrote: "He is always the most underdressed person but he doesn't care as long as he is comfortable.
"Of course, this bothers me but I don't say anything for these occasions, sometimes I suggest wearing darker colours to dress up the outfit more but that's as far as I go.
"However, my brother's wedding is coming up and he is insisting on wearing the same wedding guest outfit he usually wears. This is upsetting me as although there will be no bridal party, as he is part of the family he will have an important role in the wedding."
She knows her brother would be "disappointed" if her husband turned up looking so casual, but says he's not the type to say anything.
Reaching out for advice from fellow Reddit users, she continued: "He will just stand out being dressed so casually, especially for family photos and it upsets me that he doesn't want to make an effort for my brother's wedding. He still has his wedding suit and won't even wear the suit pants and definitely won't tuck his shirt in and wear a belt even with chinos.
"I cracked and told him I will be embarrassed to stand next to him on the day and now he is upset and called me controlling. I don't think I'm being unreasonable because I have dropped this for all other weddings and I accept he won't wear a suit but think he should compromise by dressing up a little bit more (shirt tucked in, belt etc)."
Although there were plenty of people who felt her husband should just suck it up and fit in for one day, others wondered whether there could be a reason behind his discomfort.
One person commented: "I'd be interested in whether his clothes actually fit properly if he wears all his shirts untucked and forgiving sorts of pants like chinos. Totally possible he finds them uncomfortable because he's never been sized or fitted properly."
Another advised: "Sensory issues with clothes are a thing! I hate wearing socks and if I can feel the collar of a shirt I feel like I will suffocate.
"That said a man in a suit with a great pair of slacks, a glorious pair of shoes, and a pressed dress shirt and carrying the jacket except for pics can be done here. Have your outfit compliment his shirt and you guys will look amazing.
"Compromise with your husband by agreeing sometimes he can wear his killer outfit and other times he can wear what he wants and you won't say a word."
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