A woman says her husband reacted badly upon learning her younger sister intended to have an alcohol-free wedding, as 'he hates going to loud events with no alcohol'. Initially, he wondered whether an exception could be made for him, and so she broached the topic with the bride-to-be.
The answer was a firm no. Her sister's future husband has struggled with alcoholism, so it was important for the bride and groom to keep any alcoholic substances away from the reception on their special day. She relayed all this to her husband, who then declared that he simply wouldn't come if that was the case.
By this point, the panicked wife was 'freaking out', and rang her sister to inform her of his decision. She responded casually, simply replying 'as he likes', and refusing to budge on the issue.
Taking to Reddit, where she goes by the username u/Cap-Hud779, the stressed-out wife wrote: "I told her it wouldn't be a big deal if she said yes to the request but she flipped out on me saying we know how her fiance is a former alcoholic and doesn't want this 'substance' anywhere near him on his big day.
"My husband chimed in and said, 'if homeboy is scared of having alcohol nearby, then he's not mature enough for marriage'."
Reaching out to fellow Reddit users for advice, she continued: "My sister got into a fight with him and told him it's her and her fiancé's wedding. My husband was like 'okay cool no pressure', and decided not to go. I decided to not go as well.
"My sister got upset and said I was being unfair to be willing to miss her wedding for no good reason. Our parents got in the middle and scolded me for my decision and said my sister won't forget it if I miss her wedding over this."
A number of people were concerned about her husband's attitude to somebody dealing with alcohol issues, feeling they'd both behaved rather insensitively given the context of the booze ban.
One person commented: "If your husband can’t get through an event without alcohol, then your sister isn’t the only person in your family whose partner has a problem with alcohol. At least your sister’s fiancé faced up to his problem and dealt with it. Maybe your husband should try that."
Another said: "Your husband has it backward: the fact that the groom has chosen to exclude alcohol from the event for the sake of his recovery is in fact a mature, rational decision — and you and your husband's choice to throw a tantrum and refuse to attend over such a ridiculous, selfish reason is incredibly childish. Grow up."
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