When you tie the knot, you usually want to have those close to you in your wedding party. But one man has been left feeling heartbroken after his fiancée told him she didn't want his 11-year-old daughter to be their flower girl.
The man explained he has his daughter from a previous relationship and has 50/50 custody over her, so she is a large part of his life. And to show how much she means to him, he was planning on giving her an important role in his wedding - until his partner said she wouldn't "fit the part".
His fiancée claimed that as the bride, it's up to her to choose which girls would be in the wedding party, and she wanted to make her niece the flower girl instead of her soon-to-be stepdaughter.
In a post on Reddit, the man fumed: "I have a daughter (P) from a previous relationship. I divorced my ex-wife on good terms and we share 50/50 custody of P. She is now 11. After I divorced my ex-wife I met my now fiancée (S). S and my daughter get along very well. After five years in my relationship with S, I proposed.
"S was super excited and wanted to start planning right away. She looked at venues and started asking her friends to be her bridesmaids. She then told me she wanted her niece to be a flower girl. Which I had no problem with, but I said I also wanted P to be a flower girl. S looked at me funny and then said that she didn’t think that P would 'fit the part'.
"I got angry and told S that my daughter would be in our wedding. S started to become upset and said that the girls in the wedding were up to her and that P wouldn't be one of them. I told S that if P wasn't in the wedding then there might not be a wedding. I stormed out and took P to get ice cream."
The dad said his daughter later told him she was excited to wear "whatever dress" her stepmum-to-be picks out for her, and the comment "broke his heart", as the little girl had no idea that his fiancée doesn't want her in the wedding at all.
He added: "P knows we are getting married and told me she thinks she will look pretty in whatever dress S decides she should wear. This broke my heart and I decided to text S. I told her I would be staying at a friend's to think this over. My mother-in-law texted me saying I and overreacting and that my daughter doesn’t have to be in my wedding and I was an a** for saying that I would cancel.
"So did I take it too far by saying I will cancel? Am I overreacting or just being a good dad?"
Commenters on the post were firmly on the man's side, with many saying that if his soon-to-be wife doesn't want his daughter in their wedding party, it's likely that she doesn't want her in their lives at all.
One person said: "This is a big red flag. If she doesn't want to include her stepdaughter in her wedding then don't expect she will include your daughter in her life"
While another added: "Props to you for standing up for your daughter, that's exactly what a good dad should do. Your fiancée is trying to diminish your daughter's role in your wedding. I'd be concerned that'll carry over to other parts of your life too."
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