A man who has been best friends with his old school buddy "since forever" says he was left in a tricky situation after his fiancée voiced concern about what he might wear to their upcoming wedding.
According to this groom-to-be, his best pal Taylor, who he describes as "a very affectionate person, kind, thoughtful guy", is a "30-year-old punk" with a unique sense of style. Giving an example of this, the worried groom explained that he once wore a dress to their high school prom.
Taylor is also now dating another man. Although the groom has stressed this isn't an issue at all, he added that "his partner is also very flamboyant" and likes to wear expressive outfits.
With all this in mind, his bride-to-be Anne, who is said to want "a very minimalist, quiet, calm wedding" on account of her struggles with anxiety and ADHD has expressed apprehension about what Taylor might wear on the big day itself.
Taking to Reddit, the concerned man emphasised how Taylor has long been a huge part of his life, and is beloved by his family. Despite this, he felt he had to address Anne's fears and speak to him face-to-face about the strict dress code she wanted.
He wrote: "I talked to Taylor the next day, and I told him about Anne's concerns. Tay said, 'do you think I'm gonna show up in a white dress?' and laughed about it, but I told him he needed to promise he would respect the dress code. Black tuxedo for the guys… that was the code.
"I got a little caught in the moment so maybe I was harsher than I should've been. I told him to 'man up' and to 'act his age'. I said some stupid stuff like 'people laugh about you, you want to be a joke?'.
Reaching out to fellow Reddit users for their thoughts on the situation, the unnamed man continued: "He said 'Sure, no problem' and the next day he declined the online invitation. He keeps telling me 'we’re good' and everything is okay, but the situation is bothering me.
"I love Tay, but I know he can be difficult. My group chat with my family is burning because they don't understand why he will not be there, and our friends' group chat is dead since the news dropped."
A number of people understood completely why Taylor has decided not to go, and felt the husband-to-be had some serious apologising to do.
One person warned: "This could have been a really easy 'hey, it's important to my fiancée that everyone respects the dress code'. Telling him to 'man up', 'act his age', 'people laugh about you' is beyond rude and mean. It's cruel.
"If I was Taylor I wouldn't attend your wedding either. You need to apologise and take responsibility for being a p**** if you have any chance of maintaining this friendship. Though I don't know why Taylor would want to."
Another commented: "You've outed yourself as someone who doesn't accept or respect your friend the way he is. Your fiancée obviously feels the same."
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