A woman has revealed how her fiancé asked her to get a memorial tattoo in honour of her late son and husband removed.
In a post on Reddit, the anonymous woman explained that she was a widow for three years before meeting her fiancé Julius.
"I lost my husband and 4-year-old son in a boating accident," she said. "When I got back on my feet after losing them, I had their names tattooed on my chest. Nothing grand, it's just their names in cursive and two hearts."
She said that when she met Julius she told him about her past and how hard it was for her to get back on her feet after dealing with the grief, and he was "very understanding."
After a year of dating, he proposed.
"Yesterday, while I was getting out of the shower, Julius asked me when I plan to have my tattoo removed," the post read. "He said he knows someone who's really good and he could give us a discount."
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The woman said she had no idea how to respond because she'd never considered having the tattoos removed, and she told him that.
Later that night, during dinner, he asked her again about the tattoos.
"He said we're about to get married and it's time for me to move on," the post read. "I told him I have already moved on. He said it's hardly moving on when I still have their names on my chest, that he can see every time we're intimate."
He told her that the tattoos make him "uncomfortable and insecure" because he believes she "can't let go" of her past.
"He's been giving me the cold shoulder since," the post read. "I told my mom about what happened and she told me she understands how Julius feels."
She concluded her post by asking whether she was in the wrong for refusing to have it removed, but the majority of people were on her side, and criticised her fiancé for being "insecure".
One person said: "It takes some champion level insecurity to feel threatened by someone's late husband AND CHILD. How callous can you get? He needs to love and accept all of who you are, not cut away or hide the parts he'd rather not see."
Another wrote: "I understand he might feel awkward sometimes, but if he was secure enough he would see those tattoos with care, being empathetic to your story and loss."
"[To be honest] it's a big red flag that he waited to bring up this issue until after they were engaged," commented a third. "He waited until things were more official and she was more invested in the relationship, therefore less likely to immediately end things."
While someone else put: "'Julius asked me when I plan to have my tattoo removed.' The guy asked 'when' not if or maybe, but when, like a f***ing demand."
"Tattoos were meant to be permanent," commented another user. "They were used to signify events, belonging, love, and so many more things. Your tattoos are there for exactly the right reasons."
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