A man has sparked rage with his family members after he's refused to honour his step mum at his upcoming wedding.
Tensions initially arose after he declined to dance with his step mum after she discovered that the groom and his grandma were having a special dance at the wedding reception.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, the man explained that his mum passed away when he was just four-years-old, and his dad married his wife Sandy over a decade later.
The woman always tried to do good by her stepson, but he admits that she would be offended by him spending time with his mother's parents and ultimately ruining 'mother-son time'.
The anonymous Reddit user explained: "She wanted the chance to have some 'mother-son time' and she said she was taking her role as my mother seriously. I told her it was nice and all but she wasn't my mother and that was okay, not to stress it.
"A few weeks after that exchange she told me about her first marriage. How she raised her stepkids from the time they were elementary schoolers to teenagers and then her husband died and they wanted to be with blood family and cut all contact with her.
"She was like I know you're older and all but I have always wanted to be a mother and you lost yours when you were 4, so why not let me be your new mother and we can both get what we need. I told her that was not something I needed and sorry.
"I know she was never happy about that. She always kept trying to push that boundary. She would introduce herself as my mom, me her son and would talk about being a boy mom. I never wanted a new mom and always made that clear."
However, things progressively worsened just a few weeks ago as the groom-to-be explained that things quickly turned 'nasty'.
The man explained further: "She heard I was doing a special dance with my grandma at my wedding in November and told me she deserved a dance too. She said she's the person who is in the position of mom, she's the future grandmother of my children and she deserves her chance to be honored [sic] with something public like that.
"She told me I am a young man and need to learn how to treat a woman who has been in the role of my mom for a decade now. I laughed which only made her angry. She told me she was demanding a dance after everything she has done for me.
"This is when I told her that she needs to accept she is not a mother, that as sad as it is, she can't make it happen with someone else's child and that she is not entitled to demand a dance at my wedding since she is not a mother or a parent to me."
Seeking advice, the man wrote: "She said knowing what she has been through I should be ashamed of myself for talking to her like that. My dad called me after and asked if there was anything I could give her to make her feel better because she was really hurt."
"Am I the a**hole?" He questioned.
Since sharing his concerns, the man's post has raked in over 950 comments to date - where people assured the groom-to-be that he wasn't being unreasonable.
One person wrote: "Not the a**hole - that's a lovely thing to do with your grandmother. You told step mother she wasn't a mother figure to you and that’s your choice. Don't feel bad about it OP."
A second agreed: "Not the a**hole You were 16 when she became your stepmother. You made it clear that you didn’t want her to take a mother role in your life and she has repeatedly ignored and pushed boundaries."
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