A mum has been left outraged after her daughter uninvited her "chubby" friend from her birthday party because she'd "ruin" her photos.
She explained how her daughter asked to go on a small vacation with her friends to celebrate her 18th birthday, rather than having a 'traditional' party.
Having no problem with this, her mum set about booking a hotel and restaurant and coming up with activities for the girls to enjoy while on holiday. But with just days to go until the vacation, the mum came to learn how her daughter, named Abby, uninvited one of her close friends.
She said on Reddit: "I called the other two girls' parents to confirm the girls would be there and learned Abby's best friend Betty isn't going. Betty loves traveling and was looking forward to the vacation so I asked why. Apparently Abby uninvited her because 'she is too chubby to look good in pictures'.
"I calmly talked to Abby and reminded her how Betty would feel being left out for such a reason and she went off with 'I didn't work so hard for this vacation so my pictures will be ruined'."
She went on to explain how her daughter put on weight in her early teens after moving in with her dad - but has been dropping pounds since setting up her own "milestone-reward system".
The mum added: "Abby embarked on her weight loss journey a year ago and we set up a milestone-reward system where I'd buy her a little gift every milestone she crossed.
"Abby losing weight, how she wanted to lose it, and how she wanted me to support her on her journey (the gifts) were entirely her choice.
"Four months ago, she asked that I don't get her any more rewards and add it up to her birthday gift.
"She [said she] wants a vacation for her and her friends instead of the huge party I had promised for her 18th - I said OK."
Considering Abby was in the same boat as Betty only a few months ago, she thought she'd know how hurtful it would be to hear such comments from your friends.
"I insisted Abby should apologise to Betty for body shaming her and reminded her how horrible she felt when people did it to her not even more than a year ago," she added.
"I also threatened to cancel the vacation if she didn't apologise because although I am glad she is so confident in her own skin now, it is not an excuse to put others down.
"She stormed off and went to her dad's. I later received a call from my very angry ex telling me off for making decisions for Abby, and using this as an excuse to cancel.
"I told him off for enabling her bullying and hung up. I then called Abby and reminded her I was not asking her to invite Betty if she doesn't want to, but to apologise for how unnecessarily mean and hurtful she was."
But rather than apologising, Abby tried to bully Betty into telling her mum it was "all a lie" - saying she never uninvited her for those reasons.
However, Betty rightly stood up for herself and told the truth.
She said: "She tried to get Betty to talk to me and tell me she lied about being uninvited and that Betty cancelled because she wasn't feeling well.
"When Betty said no, she sent a ton of hateful texts and body-shaming insults I can't even write down. Betty sent me screenshots so I cancelled the vacation."
After cancelling the holiday, her ex-husband condemned her for spoiling their daughter's 18th birthday celebration, saying she was wrong to cancel the booking.
"My ex tried to rebook but it's a very popular place with a long waiting list so soon after I cancelled, the girls were replaced with other people," she added.
"My ex and Abby think I'm an a***hole for cancelling the vacation and my daughter is not talking to me.
"Some of my friends agree on my approach while others think I should have put my daughter first."
Not knowing what to think, the woman has taken to Reddit to ask users whether she was just in her actions or was too harsh on her daughter.
In response, one user said: "Uninviting someone because you only want skinny people in your pictures is a disgusting attitude frankly.
"I am totally with you that this needs to have consequences, and while I'm very much against breaking promises I do believe this is an exception.
"Like you said, your daughter knows what it feels like. She should be supportive of friends wanting to lose weight if that is the case and if it isn't they she should just mind her own business."
Another user added: "Holy crap, your daughter is a monster. That is how she treats her best friend? Yikes."
A third user said: "It's lovely to hear a parent setting boundaries and giving their child (18 or not) an opportunity to correct their mistakes.
"The world is filled with chances to mess up and showing your daughter a way to move forward (without forcing her to bring along a person she clearly doesn't want on vacation), is a life lesson she'll value ... one day!
"It's disappointing for her and anyone she decides to vent to or rant at etc. It sounds like the next few days will be emotionally draining on everyone."
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