A mum has been called out for being "dramatic" after slamming her sister-in-law for not inviting her children to her wedding.
The woman took to online parenting forum Mumsnet to ask for advice after learning that her kids would not be invited to her husband's brother's wedding. She later found out that it was his fiancée's decision, and that there would be two flower girls from her side of the wedding.
Unsure of whether she should take action, she asked for guidance. Writing on Mumsnet, the woman said: "Brother in law is getting married in an hour and a half; never been on Mumsnet, don't know what to do. Feel as if I am going to vomit.
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"Checked into hotel to find sister-in-law with her cousins and bridesmaids and two bloody flower girls. Our two girls are not invited. It became very obvious to me and mother-in-law that my children were not going to be invited to the wedding, logically none of our business but it was hurtful and upsetting.
"I thought my husband would be accepting but he was completely offended. He approached brother-in-law who spoke to sister-in-law. Kids not invited."
She continued: "Pandemic took over and when wedding was planned again both MiL and husband spoke again but no kids. BiL admitted this was SiL as he had left all planning to her.
"Husband is best man. I don't know if I should ring him and warn him and MiL. I am scared there will be an atmosphere when they walk in."
Before long, the post had received dozens of responses. While some users were sympathetic, many agreed that the original poster was being "dramatic".
One said: "Sorry but it feels like you’re making a big drama here (about to vomit…) that isn’t going to help any one. It’s up to the couple getting married to decide who to invite. Just accept that your kids aren’t there. And enjoy the wedding."
"I mean the kids are part of the wedding that isn't unusual you're just p****d off your kids were not asked, they are allowed to invite who they like, take a Rennie for your 'nausea' and get on with it," argued a second.
"Don't cause a drama on the wedding day, that will just leave you looking unhinged," suggested a third, while a fourth wrote: "No kids usually means no other kids other than wedding party, you sound very dramatic".
A fifth commented: "Your reaction is quite extreme. I can understand how it's a bit sad to not have family children invited but it's not something I would be so worked up about. And you absolutely do not say anything today and ruin someone's wedding!"
Meanwhile, a sixth shared: "Am I the only one quietly jumping for joy when my kids are NOT invited to a wedding? A night out I let loose and have fun with no kids to look after. Bliss."
However, other users said she was right to be upset, with one writing: "How horrible of her to include children in her own side of the family but not her husbands. If that’s the sort of person she is, I feel sorry for your BIL."
A second agreed: "No kids is your own choice at your wedding but to invite some nieces/nephews and not others is just plain mean and would give me anxiety too. I would definitely not have made a scene (I don’t think OP was proposing to either ) but quietly left as soon after the meal as is polite."
A third echoed: "To leave a niece and nephew out like this is bang out of order. Your SIL is selfish and your BIL spineless. Avoid as much as possible. They could have compromised (my daughter was a flower girl at a child free wedding and was whisked away after the ceremony) but they chose this path."
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