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Mum conned out of £80,000 after ending 29-year relationship for 'silver fox' scammer

When Sharon Bulmer was approached by a man online, who stated that he was a US soldier, she thought that all her dreams had come true.

He was handsome, "lonely" and 'promised her the world.

The mum, from Swinton, Manchester, ended her relationship with her long-term partner of 29 years and began planning a new life with who she knew as 'Murphy Townsend'.

Soon, after messaging daily, he wanted to visit Sharon, 51, in Manchester, as reported by Manchester Evening News.

All he needed was £1,400 in Bitcoin to pay for his flight from Raqqa, Syria, where he was serving in the armed forces.

“He said it was the safest way to do it,” she said.

Two years later, Sharon had forked out almost £80,000 to her internet lover - despite never seeing his face.

Latvian Defence Minister Artis Pabriks - not Murphy Townsend (Manchester Evening News)

The face she thought she knew as 'Murphy Townsend' was in fact Artis Pabriks - the Latvian Minister for Defence.

And the fake profile was one of more than 100 featuring images of the suave politician.

'Murphy' swindled Sharon out of thousands after sending that first Facebook message saying he was "lonely' in May 2020.

Sharon is still coming to terms with being conned.

She said: "He asked me to help him and I did, but over the time it's got me into huge debt and because I have fallen for this person.

"I just wanted to help him so much. I know I have been a fool but these are the things we do for love."

The person behind the account claimed to be a 56-year-old man from Washington DC, with a 17-year-old daughter called Helen.

Murphy told Sharon he was serving with the 37th Infantry Brigade Combat Team at Base 29 in Raqqa, Syria.

But, when Sharon enquired with the US authorities, she was told there was no 'Murphy Townsend' on their records at all.

She said: “He always kept things close to his chest. He doesn’t like me asking questions.”

Sharon had ended her relationship with her partner of 29 years in order to 'start a new life' with Murphy.

She then forked out nearly £80,000 over the two-and-a-half-year period for various hospital bills and plane tickets - and is now in £37,000 worth of debt.

Sharon, a team leader at a Covid site, sent 'Murphy' the cash in Bitcoin.

But not once did she video call him - as he'd told her he wasn't allowed to at his base.

The mum said she wanted to share her story to stop other people from getting tricked the way she has been.

Sharon said: "I wanted to take my children on holiday, I was going to take them to New York last year, but because he was constantly hammering for money I couldn't.

"I want to help anyone out there to not be taken by these idiots and just try and get on with my life."

Murphy first got in touch with Sharon in May 2020 by sending her two Facebook messages.

She said: “He said he was lonely, he’s serving in Syria, his wife had passed away and he just wanted someone to speak to.

“He said he’d been watching me on Facebook, I don’t know what that means.”

After exchanging a few messages, Sharon gave Murphy her email address and they continued the chat on Google Hangouts.

She said: “Murphy was sweet when I first met him, nothing at all made me think anything different about him.

“He was very interesting when I kept talking to him.

“I felt loved in a way, I felt cared for. I think it’s because he’s an older person, he had an older head.”

At the time Sharon was in a relationship with a man who’d she’d lived with for 29 years, and they had two children together.

She split up with him in August 2020.

She said: "I fell out of love, I wanted more and that’s where Murphy came in. He promised me the world and God knows what else.”

In September, after talking online every day, Murphy asked if he could go and visit Sharon in Manchester.

After she accepted, he asked her for £1,400 to pay for his flight, and asked her to pay via Bitcoin.

“He said it was the safest way to do it,” she said.

But after not hearing from Murphy for a few days, she received a message from a different email address, but also with the name Murphy Townsend.

They asked for another £15,000 for the plane ticket and, believing it was Murphy, Sharon paid up.

At the end of the month, she received a message from someone claiming to be a doctor who said that Murphy had been taken into hospital.

She said: “He said, ‘he’s unconscious but he’s ok, everything is going according to plan and we’re keeping him in hospital'.”

Sharon didn’t ask which hospital he was in but, believing Murphy was injured, she didn’t contact him until he messaged her at the start of October.

Sharon Bulmer wants to make sure others don't fall for the same scam (Manchester Evening News)

She said: “He wanted to know where I’d been when I’d not been in contact with him. That’s when I told him I’d been scammed by someone else using his email address.

“He couldn’t believe it.”

Murphy claimed that he’d been shot in the side on the way to the airport and that he was due to stay in hospital for another six weeks.

He also said he was unable to return to the army base because he’d lied and told them he was leaving to back to his family in the States, rather than his British lover.

Sharon then twigged that the messages she got from the second email address was a scam.

She said: “I said, ‘have you lost anything?’, and he said, ‘I lost my computer when I went down’.

“So that’s when I knew that’s where the scammer came in, they would have had a look at the computer I think.”

Murphy then asked Sharon for £5,000 to help with his medical bills, which she paid, before announcing that he wanted to leave the army for good and move in with her in Manchester.

“When he gets out he’s going back home, sorting a few things out, bringing his daughter over here, and we’re all setting up a new life,” she said.

In October 2020, he started asking for weekly payments, between £600 and £1,000 to cover the cost of administration fees, airlifting fees and to 'buy him out of his contract'.

She said: “The transactions were long as my arm. I’ve literally fallen in love with this person, I hope to God he is Murphy.”

The requests for cash kept coming, with Murphy asking for £5,000 in February 2021 for a trip to the UK.

But in the end he claimed he lost his plane ticket, so would still not be able to see her.

In August last year, when she asked for pictures of him, he sent her a screenshot of photos from the Facebook profile of ‘Mike Douglas’.

Sharon said: “I asked him, ‘why don’t you send some information to me?’, some pictures in your uniform and stuff like that.

“He sent me some pictures but he sent them through Mike Douglas, so when I questioned him, he said because we can't use Facebook when we’re on a mission.”

He also claimed that his original Facebook page had been hacked by the men who stole his computer, and that is why a different name of ‘Mofsjol Dukhan’ has appeared on a page using his photo.

“He deleted his Murphy Townsend off Facebook, but now somebody's created another one again but it's an Asian name,” she said.

In November last year he asked for £2,000 to see his daughter in Washington, and then a further £5,000 for the medical assessment he needed to board the plane that she paid for late last month.

Up until a final £900 transferred last week, Sharon has paid over £80,000 towards what she believes is getting Murphy out of Syria and to see her.

Despite never having a video call, Sharon never questioned his intentions, up until asking for proof of his medical assessment from a doctor.

Murphy sent her a copy of a letter from ‘Dr Abdulrahman Alomair’, a Paediatric Orthopaedic Surgeon.

He sent a letter from Al Mouwasat University Hospital that said he was part of a ‘pedestrian-vehicle traffic accident’ in September 2020 that he is currently in intensive care.

The letter was dated January 24, 2022.

She said: “He is supposed to be in hospital with a serious condition from his accident, but why all of a sudden is he in hospital but never complained about any pain in the year we have been together?

“The letter is signed by a doctor who treats children with special bones. I don't get it.”

In November last year he asked for £2,000 to see his daughter in Washington (Manchester Evening News)

Suspecting she had been scammed, Sharon then approached the US Army to ask whether there was anyone named Murphy Townsend serving.

They responded saying ‘there is not anyone by the name of Murphy Townsend currently serving in the Army Reserve’ or as a General Officer.

They also said that the 37th Infantry Brigade Combat Team that he claims to be part of is from the Ohio National Guard and not the Army Reserve.

There are no LT Generals in that team.

She said: “I questioned him on that and he turned round and said to me are you dumb.”

She hasn’t told her family but Sharon is in thousands of pounds of debt after sending the money to Murphy.

She said: “My ex does slightly know of him, but he doesn’t know all the ins and outs. No one else knows, I want to keep my family out of it.

“They are starting to be suspicious though.”

Sharon wants to share her story to prevent others becoming victims of romance fraud.

She said: "I want to help anyone out there to not be taken by these idiots and just try and get on with my life."

The Latvian Defence Office confirmed it was aware of the continuing issue of identity theft involving the Defence Minister Artis Pabriks.

A spokesperson said: "Unfortunately, we have been facing this situation for a long time.

"We receive information about the various fake profiles that use the name and images of Mr. Pabriks on Facebook and Instagram both from the users of the social networks themselves, and our partners and colleagues in other countries.

"We frequently receive screenshots from people who have been contacted by fraudsters and, recognising the official accounts of the Defense Minister, choose to report them.

"So far, we have collected and reported to Facebook more than 100 fake accounts, but the response has been negative.

"We feel that the security of everyday users both on Facebook and Instagram needs to be strengthened and supported in situations like these, and we encourage Facebook to pay more attention to these kinds of cases."

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