We all know you can't call dibs on a baby name, and if someone chooses to name their baby the same thing you'd like to name yours, there's not much you can do besides stick with it or pick out a different moniker. However, if the name you want for your child happens to be the dream name one of your close family members has picked out, you might want to sit down and discuss it with them first - or you could risk a major fall out.
That's the situation one mum has found herself in after she pinched her sister's dream baby name in the full knowledge that her sibling had been wanting to use the moniker for some time.
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In a post on Reddit, the mum explained she had originally picked out the names Mindy and Derek, but had changed her mind at the last minute and settled on Morgan for a boy - which happened to be her sister's favourite name too.
And rather than discuss things with her sister, the woman decided to just use the name Morgan, and confessed she didn't think it would be a problem because her sister has "fertility issues" and has struggled to get pregnant.
She said: "I had a couple of names picked out since I found out I was pregnant - Mindy if it's a girl, and Derek if it's a boy. However, in my last few weeks of pregnancy, I added another name to the list for a boy - Morgan.
"My sister and I have had a close relationship for a long time, so I let her know that I had another name I was considering for a boy and when I told her she was shocked saying Morgan is the name she wanted if she got pregnant with a boy.
"She has fertility issues so it would be a while before she got pregnant, if at all. She pleaded with me not to use that name because it was a family name on her husband's side of the family and asked me to use the name I had originally chosen for a boy.
"I told her that because she's not pregnant and might not be able to even have kids that it wouldn't matter if I chose that name or not and she got upset by this."
When the mum gave birth, she and her husband decided to use the name Morgan anyway - but she kept it a secret from her sister because she didn't want her to "get upset".
She even told her sibling she hadn't settled on a name yet when she was pressed on the issue, and her sister didn't find out the truth until their mum told her.
She added: "After I gave birth my husband and I named our son Morgan but I didn't tell my sister because I knew she would get upset. This was my baby and I shouldn't have to give up the name I want for the slight chance she could maybe one day get pregnant.
"She messaged me to congratulate me on the delivery and asked what the name was, I told her we still hadn't decided what name so I could avoid drama as I had just given birth,
"My mum called her the next day to tell her about the baby and mentioned the name to her before I could tell her and of course she got upset. I told her that it was what my husband and I decided and it has nothing to do with her so I didn't see the point in telling her when I knew what her reaction would be.
"Her husband was devastated and so was she, and now we barely talk, at least not like we used to. I told her she needs to get over it because I was the one who was pregnant, not her. She's being really immature about it by not talking to me and getting this upset over a name. Our relationship isn't the same now and she says it's my fault."
Commenters on the post were baffled by the mum's actions, with many branding her "insensitive" to her sister's struggle with infertility and calling her "spiteful" for using the name knowing what it meant to her family.
One person said: "This was a sh***y spiteful move. One you did intentionally. And you seem shocked your relationship has changed. It hasn't changed because of the name. It changed because your sister realised how little you value her."
While another added: "The way you keep emphasising how unlikely she is to have a child just shows how insensitive you are towards her. The name has significance to her husband, you had a name picked out for months and added another one to the list later on, it's like you didn't feel certain you wanted to use that name until your sister asked you not to."
And a third wrote: "It was a family member who is grieving she can't have kids yet. Now every time she looks at your son she sees what she wants and can't have down to the name. Your blantant disrespect for her is the cherry on top."
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