A mother is celebrating ten years of starting a 'funeral care duo' with her daughter after she was unhappy about how her late father was treated. Michelle Slinn, 56, works for the Co-op Funeralcare chain and interviewed her daughter on her 21st birthday and said she would be "brilliant".
The pair share a home in Walthamstow, London and have honoured families' wishes by dyeing the hair of the deceased as well as giving facials. Michelle, is based in the same area having previously looked after funerals carried out by 14 different branches.
She now works as a funeral arranger after stepping down to become special guardian to four-year-old twins. Jodie, 25, is based in Hackney and also works as one.
Michelle is married to Michael, 67, and said she had always wanted to work in this line of work, but it was the death and the funeral of her beloved dad, Leonard, in 2008 that finally persuaded her. She took up the offer of a job caring for the deceased four years later in 2012.
"I had a bad experience when my dad died," she said. “I’d been to funerals before, but this was the first time the person who died was someone so close to me and I was not happy with how he was taken care of after he died or with how he looked. It really upset me."
The duo are two of almost 2,000 women who work for Co-op Funeralcare and Michelle received a Long Service Award from the Co-op for over a decade of working in funeral care in May 2022. She says she jumped at the chance to try out for a job at a Co-op funeral home when a mutual friend working at the Manor Park centre offered to recommend her.
She moved from part-time to full-time months later and became an Estate Planning Lead in 2018.
"We make a point of doing whatever the family asks us to do, "Michelle said. "One time, I dyed the hair of someone who had died because that's what their family asked for and Jodie has even done facials for the deceased if that’s what the family has requested.
Jodie, who studied hairdressing and then tourism at college before working for three years in care homes, agrees with her mum that nothing is too much trouble for a bereaved family. She said her experience has taught her to "make the most of every single day."
She added however that although she has learned to leave work at work, some upsetting circumstances can make it hard to stay composed, such as the funeral of a teenager who had been killed. "It was very hard to watch how his distraught father sobbed the whole time he was in the room talking about the funeral," she said.
Michelle also recalls feeling emotional and upset when she helped plan the funeral of a new-born baby who had been born one of twins.
"That was very hard, seeing the surviving twin in the pram at the funeral and their sibling in a tiny casket," she said. "But the fact is we see all of life, from newborns to people who just got their telegram from the Queen and, of course, suicides too."
Jodie was only 18 when Michelle first mooted the idea of working in funeral care. She initially turned her mother down thinking she was not yet mature enough for a role that her contemporaries would run a mile from.
"In the end, I agreed to try it and so went for an interview on my 21st birthday. I got the job and have never looked back," Jodie said. "It is rewarding to know the comfort you can bring to a family and also how much of the stress of arranging a funeral you can take off of them.
"This job did make me grow up but in a good way. I know now to live in the moment and make the most of every single day because the truth is, none of us know what is around the corner or when our time will come."
To find out more about careers with Co-op Funeralcare and learn whether embalming is the right career path for you, visit the Coop website.
