Mental health issues are a tough thing that many people struggle with. And for them, having someone they trust is very important. After all, it’s said that opening up can be a big step toward accepting and working out your problems. Yet, not everyone is that lucky.
Like this man who decided to open up to his girlfriend because his troubles were crushing him. Sadly, it turned out that this woman wasn’t as reliable as he thought, and it only sent him down the deep end.
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When opening up to someone, you not only have to worry about how to be vulnerable with them but also how they’re going to react
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A man who had never opened up to anyone in his life before decided to do this to his girlfriend of 2 years
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She listened to him talking about the struggles he endures and didn’t say anything bad
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But then, a few days later, she dumped him seemingly out of the blue
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After some time, he learned that the reason she did that was that seeing him cry was a turn-off for her and she made fun of him behind his back
Today’s OP revealed that he’s been going through tough times. He understood that he needed to talk to someone about it, even though it was very hard, as he had never done so before.
The original poster didn’t specify the reason why he had never opened up to anyone up until this point. Well, we could guess that it might have something to do with the “boys don’t cry” stereotype. When growing up, boys are told not to cry as it “isn’t manly.” This makes them repress their negative emotions from when they were little, which results in them having a tough time and not being able to talk about their feelings. Today’s author is a perfect example of this.
Well, basically, this whole story is about him breaking this kind of wall in his mind and deciding to finally open up to someone, which didn’t end pleasantly, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
The person he opened up to was his girlfriend of 2 years. Overall, finding a person you trust enough to talk to them about your struggles is very important. Having someone to understand or at least acknowledge what you’re going through can be a step toward dealing with the troubles.
Yet, the process of opening up might be scary. In a way, it’s like getting emotionally naked in front of someone and hoping they won’t make fun of you. Despite many cases of people supporting those who open up, there are still many cases of people who don’t.
And sadly, the girlfriend of today’s author was one of those people. A few days after her boyfriend got so vulnerable, she dumped him. While at first, it seemed out of the blue for him, he soon learned why she did that.
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Apparently, seeing him cry was a turn-off for her. She and her friends also made fun of him for opening up and dubbed him weak.
This crushed the man. He trusted her so much that she was the first person he ever talked about his struggles with. And now, he has no one he can talk about this stuff with.
So, he vented about the whole situation on Reddit. Here, he received quite a mix of comments, just as he pointed out in the update himself. Many comments talked about how this betrayal, while painful, would be for the best in the long run, as he learned that his ex wasn’t trustworthy.
It will surely be hard for the OP to open up to someone else in the near future. Yet, we hope that he will find a way to do that, either in his social circle, online, or maybe even by reaching out to a therapist. Bottling up emotions is never a beneficial thing, and it’s just too sad that he got hurt when he tried to deal with them by talking for the first time ever.
What would you do if you were in a similar situation? Share with us in the comments!
This made the man vent about it on Reddit, where people assured him that it’s better to know what a terrible person she is sooner rather than later
