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Denis Krotovas

Woman Married To A Mama’s Boy For 10 Years, Finally Reaches Her Breaking Point, Seeks Advice Online

Ever met someone so pampered they practically expect the world to roll out a red carpet for them? Like, seriously, their life motto could be “Why lift a finger when others can do it for you?” That’s the story of one Redditor who was married to a man who’s been coddled by his mom so much that it was putting a serious strain on their marriage.

The Redditor, who we’ll randomly name Sofia, was raised in a bustling household of 5, where everyone pitched in and chores were a family affair. She married a man who was the epitome of a man-child. It’s a classic tale of a relationship teetering on the edge because one partner just can’t seem to grow up.

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Man married for 10 years never did any chores in his life, fed up wife threatens him with divorce

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The man had been coddled by his mom as a kid, grew up with a maid, and never had to work for anything

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The wife married her husband when she was just 18 years old, hoping he would one day change and help around the house, but he never did

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After the wife threatens him with divorce, the husband does the dishes for the first time in 10 years, but never touches another chore after that

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“I just want things to be better”: the wife takes to the internet to ask for advice on how to make her husband help around the house

Sofia’s husband, despite technically having a sister, was essentially raised as an only child. His sister was 10 years older than him and mostly out of the house during his childhood. Which led to him being pampered like a prince. With a maid to cater to his needs and a mom who picked up any slack, this guy never lifted a finger around the house.

Sofia married her husband when she was just 18 years old, starry-eyed, and full of hope. She believed her husband would eventually step up and share the household duties. Spoiler alert: he didn’t. She wasn’t even asking for an even split – a 90/10 ratio would have been enough to show her that he could change. But nope, zilch, nada. Years of begging, arguments, and broken promises followed.

The sad reality hit her hard when she realized she had unknowingly signed up for a life of catering to her husband. But, besides having to deal with the entire 3-bedroom house by herself, she was also feeling the crushing weight of longtime depression.

Can you imagine trying to manage a household alone, while battling severe depression? And, to add salt to the wound, any attempt at addressing the issue resulted in the same defensive retort: “But I did the dishes!” Yes, the one time he actually washed some plates, after being threatened with divorce, was now his golden ticket out of all future chores.

When housework isn’t divided fairly, it can seriously strain a marriage. As experts explain, “When you or your partner are unhappy about the allocation of household chores, the stress level in your home can increase tremendously. Researchers have found that the unequal distribution of housework is one of the top stressors in many relationships. For example, one study found that wives reported that one of their top sources of stress was the fact that their husbands don’t want to do their share of work around the house.”

This imbalance can create resentment and frustration, leading to conflicts that might seem minor but accumulate over time. To prevent housework from hurting your marriage, it’s crucial to have open conversations about expectations and responsibilities. Identify each partner’s strengths and preferences, then agree on a fair division of tasks. The goal isn’t necessarily a 50/50 split but a system that feels fair to both of you.

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This husband, whose idea of work was a job handed to him on a silver platter by his mother, had been on her payroll regardless of his attendance. He hadn’t shown up for nearly a year, yet still received his weekly allowance. Talk about living in a bubble!

Sofia found herself at a crossroads – she didn’t want to leave her husband, she just wanted him to listen, to care, and to change. The resentment building inside her was a ticking time bomb, threatening to explode if things didn’t improve.

Dealing with a partner who doesn’t want to change can be one of the most frustrating experiences in a relationship. If you clearly communicate to your partner what issue you may have with their behavior, but they refuse to take steps to address them, it can create a cycle of disappointment and resentment. Just like Sofia, who tried plenty of times to ask for help from her husband, but the only thing she could get was a promise. “I spent the first several years of our marriage begging for the least bit of help, promises were made and always broken,” she recalls.

There are no easy answers when a spouse doesn’t want to change. As experts put it, “The frustration of your partner’s lack of follow-through on good intentions, saying one thing and then doing another, or breaking promises can slowly erode both the emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship. If your partner won’t change, isn’t willing to work on improving your relationship, or won’t seek help, you may be on the path to a breakup or divorce.”

Sofia knew she had some tough decisions to make, and although she loved her husband, she couldn’t continue living in a lopsided relationship. She deserved a partner that would pamper her like a princess, not a pampered prince.

What’s your take on this story? What should our leading lady do in this situation? Share your wisdom in the comment section.

People in the comments urge the wife to get a divorce saying her husband will never change and she will be stuck in the same situation for another 10 years

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