A Leeds "sexpert" has hit out at "shocking" dirty talk in a popular new TV show. Jodie Slee, 39, has condemned the language used in The Idol as not "inclusive".
The Idol is a new American drama series starring Abel Tesfaye, who is known to more people as The Weeknd, and Johnny Depp's daughter Lily Rose Depp. In the show, Depp plays Jocelyn - an aspiring pop idol who begins a relationship with Tedros (The Weeknd) and attempts to reclaim her title as the US' sexiest pop star.
The show has not received overwhelmingly positive reviews and Jodie has hit out at the HBO show's use of "fairly explicit" language in sex scenes, claiming it does not add anything but "shock". Viewers were left infuriated by the derogative language used in the show which also made references to suffocation.
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The sex scenes were described by viewers as "gross" and "nasty" and Jodie has spoken out in the hope of seeing sex normalised in the media. She has encouraged people to "go for" dirty talk if they want to try it but to speak to their partners beforehand to get consent.
Jodie, who is a psychosexual therapist, said: "The dirty talk is fairly explicit. It's shock for the sake of shock.
"It's good to show a range of sexual practices. But I'm not sure it adds anything but shock. It's showing a very thin, beautiful woman being submissive - that's not groundbreaking. It's not really sex positive. It's not inclusive."
Jodie said couples should encourage dirty talk if it is something they would like to try. "If it's between two consenting adults, you can be as explicit as you want," she said.
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"You can't spontaneously use explicit language. Run it by the other. People are obsessed with spontaneity. Consent is sexy."
Jodie said people often think they have to be really imaginative with their language in the bedroom.
She said: "People have a different perception of what it should be. They think they are going to need to be really imaginative. It can be as simple as saying 'that feels really good' or 'I like it when you do that'.
"Try not to over think it. If you say anything with confidence and enthusiasm people love it. People get turned on by that. The more you do something the more normalised it will become."
Jodie also issued a warning about words they are and aren't OK with using so that couples know potential "trigger" words.
"There might be words that give people the ick - like 'daddy'", she said. "It's very individual. Words like s*** you would want to run by someone - some people get off being humiliated and degraded."
Jodie said we should all be talking about sex more - before, during and after being intimate. She said: "People don't talk about sex at all. You could have been in a marriage for 20 years and not spoken about it. Talking in the bedroom would make everyone's experiences a lot better.
"People struggle with it - surrounded with the message that we shouldn't talk about it. People end up being submissive - waiting for their sex life to come to them. We should be making it happen ourselves.
"I think it's mature to talk about sex. I don't think there is anything wrong with dirty talk. If you want to try it - go for it."
