Meet the mum with a “self-sufficient” husband - who she has never had to “train” to do the chores. Kendall Brackman, 36, says she and partner Tyler, 33, are equal in their marriage and as parents.
The couple have a young son, Benjamin, three, together and split looking after him and chores between them. Kendall said they are “in tune” with each other and she has never had to ask Tyler, a construction worker, to do anything. For example, she often cooks and does with dishes - meaning Tyler knows to go and play with Benjamin and put him to bed.
Kendall said: “Someone women feel they have to train their husband. I never had to change anything about my husband.
“He’s very in tune. My husband is self-sufficient person. He’s very motivated.”
Kendall had conversations with Tyler early on to work out their values aligned – especially when it came to equal parenting. She decided to give her work up as a registered nurse after having Benjamin as he requires extra care for a brain abnormality, which presents similarly to cerebral palsy.
Kendall said: “If he didn’t have special needs I would have carried on working. When my husband is with my son he is in full-on dad mode.”
Kendall said they do their roles and tasks and it is “unspoken”.
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She said: “I do all the cooking because I like it. I do the dishes. But he takes Benjamin and does bath time and bed time. He cuts the grass and does most of the things outside.”
Kendall said Tyler is very attentive to her and what she needs.
She said: “He knows me very well. A lot of men they don’t see their duties as parenting. They think the woman as the mum raises the child. And they ‘babysit’ once in a while. My husband has never called it babysitting.”
Kendall, from Philadelphia, USA, believes equal parenting should be seen as normal in a partnership.
She said: “I feel it should be normal. It’s something I wouldn’t settle on. If he didn’t do these things I don’t think we would have a good marriage. It’s something I wanted in a long term partner.”
