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Beth Kilgallon & Saffron Otter

'It's my job to keep my husband happy - I spend 5 hours cooking and lay out his clothes'

A woman in her mid-twenties who is a proud 'tradwife' and spends five hours of her day in the kitchen says it is her job to make her husband's life easier.

Estee Williams, 25, strongly believes in traditional gender roles and argues that the husband should be the one that goes out to work to be the 'provider and the protector' while the wife should take the role of the homemaker who doesn't need to financially contribute.

Despite the fact the pair have no children, Estee, from Virginia, US, says she doesn't agree with women trying to have it all and doesn't want to go out to work all day and come home to cook and clean like her own mother did.

She also credits the simple divide of roles to there not being any arguments or confusion over household chores.

Estee tied the knot with her husband Conner, 23, earlier this year after always agreeing to the same traditional values that they first discussed on their first date three years ago.

Connor works full-time as an electrician, while Estee stays home to ensure the house is clean and that their meals are cooked so that he doesn't have to lift a finger when he is home.

Estee says that she spends up to five hours each day in the kitchen preparing meals from scratch and up to two hours a day cleaning.

She explained: "I make Conner's lunch for him the night before he goes to work, lay out his clothes for him so everything is organised, and make sure the house is clean and smells good for when he gets home.

"I serve any of his needs to make his life easier.

"I definitely didn't grow up in a traditional setting. My parents divorced when I was young and my mum struggled with her kids to make ends meet.

"I strongly knew that I didn't want that for myself. I didn't want to be the woman that went out to work all day and then have to come home to cook and clean.

"I dreamed of staying home and having a partner that would appreciate my role as a homemaker. I just wanted a simple and traditional life."

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She added: "After meeting Conner in 2020, we realised we had the same views and values. I never thought I'd meet a guy like this.

"At the time, I was a student studying meteorology, but shortly after we met I left college and dropped all means of pursuing a career.

"I don't ever plan on having a career because I will stay home to look after our home, my husband and hopefully our future family."

Estee starts her day with a coffee before getting herself ready.

She doesn't like to sit about in pyjamas and ensure she looks well put together every day - always doing her hair and make-up and usually wears a 'house dress'.

"I like to make sure I always look nice," she said.

"I cook all of our meals from scratch so tend to spend up to five hours a day in the kitchen and spend two hours a day cleaning the entire house.

"I do our grocery shopping and run any errands that need to be done.

"I also have time to invest in hobbies and new skills, so I am currently learning how to garden and I am about to start figure skating too.

"I love to make sure our home smells good with candles and incense. I make it a really homely environment and ensure everything is done for Conner coming home so that we can then spend time together.

"Conner doesn't have to lift a finger around the house because he works hard to provide for us.

"I love the simple divide of roles. There is no confusion or arguments over whose turn it is to do something."

While Estee and Conner are enjoying their life as newlyweds, they do hope to start a family in the next two to three years.

Estee's role as a tradwife would then also include taking care of their babies.

She said: "I would also make sure that our babies' needs are met and I would also love to home-school them. I am a big believer in homeschooling and knowing what my child is consuming academically.

"I love to promote a wholesome picture of being a homemaker and tradwife. It is not boring, it is fulfilling.

"I believe that women are happiest when they're at home taking care of the house and their family.

"I'm often called lazy by trolls on social media, but I tend to just ignore it.

"I even get comments relating to domestic violence because people think that when you're depending on someone financially, they can abuse you as you don't have the means to support yourself.

"But that's just not the case.

"I love the way that we live our life. It's everything I ever dreamed of."

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