A grieving woman has been alienated by her fiancé's family for showing up to her funeral in a wedding dress. The 24-year-old explained how she made one final promise to her wife-to-be before her untimely death at aged 27.
But she never expected such a 'cold reaction' from her partner's family for seeing through her wishes. Taking to Reddit, she said: "I recently lost my fiancé - it came totally out of left field.
"Between the incident and her death, she told me that she wanted to be buried in her wedding dress. [She said] it would mean a lot if I went in mine, too since we wouldn't be able to get married."
Not wanting to let her down, she shared her fiancé's wishes with her family so they could make the necessary arrangements.
"I told her family (they were in charge of planning the funeral) and they agreed to put her in her wedding dress, but said I couldn't wear mine," she added.
"Apparently they would be fine if I had a traditional wedding dress, but because it's [colourful] they said it's inappropriate.
"I spoke with her sister and brothers about it and they said they would be on my side if I decided to show up in my wedding dress.
"I did and her sister and brothers kept their promise but it really upset her parents even more."
Following the funeral, her fiancé's family pulled her aside to "curse" her out for showing up in her wedding dress.
"They let some things slip - they never liked that their daughter liked girls and that they never liked me," she added. "[They] said I was being a selfish a***hole.
"Now I'm conflicted; I was honouring my fiancé's wishes but at the same time, I went against her parents who are grieving the untimely loss of their daughter."
Wanting to know whether she is in the wrong, she has taken to Reddit to ask for users' opinions on the situation.
In response, one user said: "You honoured your fiancé's wishes by wearing what she wanted you to wear.
"I wouldn't come down too hard on her parents though. Grief makes people act oddly. It effects everyone differently."
Another user added: "You had agreed this with your fiancé and she wanted you to wear the dress, which is gorgeous.
"Sounds like her parents' big issue is that they are homophobic and wanted to pretend that their daughter wasn’t a lesbian.
"They are wrong here even excusing the fact they are grieving. I’m really sorry for your loss."
A third user said: "While I can see why someone wearing a bright, colourful dress might possibly be upsetting to some during such a sombre occasion, especially more traditional people.
"The last wishes of your fiancé trumps everything else. You be at peace knowing you respected her in her final moments.
"As for her parents - they're [in the wrong] here. Not so much for your/your fiancé’s choice of wedding attire situation - but for what they said to you after. Completely out of line.
"They disrespected you and their daughter majorly here. That is horrible and I’m so very sorry!"
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