When somebody close to you is pregnant, you'll likely want to do everything you can to make their life easier and more comfortable, especially if it's as simple as buying them different food to you because they're craving really specific things.
A woman took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to complain about her sister-in-law, however, saying that she's moved in with her and her husband because her pregnancy is high-risk. She keeps "requesting candy, ice cream, chips, pizza rolls, basically all junk food constantly because she has cravings", which the woman has taken an issue with as she likes to run a healthy household.
She wrote: "My sister-in-law is six months pregnant and is high-risk. Because of that, she's unable to work so she couldn't keep her apartment. The father isn't in the picture, so she moved in with us.
"She and I have never had the best relationship, but I put that aside because my husband wanted to help her.
"We are not charging her rent or anything, as she has very little money. We are buying all the groceries and I do a lot of cooking.
"Here is where the issue is. We live a pretty healthy lifestyle and I don't like a lot of junk food in the house as we want the kids to have healthier options, so I don't buy a ton.
"We aren't super strict or anything, but we will have a thing of ice cream for a week or so, and then next trip we might get a box of brownie mix or a bag of candy.
"My sister-in-law has been requesting candy, ice cream, chips, pizza rolls, basically all junk food constantly because she has cravings.
"Now, we aren't exactly rich, so I don't really want to be spending money on food that no one but her would eat, and I don't want to deal with the kids constantly asking why she can have ice cream for breakfast or pizza rolls for dinner.
"She has also been asking me to cook different meals as certain things make her not feel well. I totally get the nausea, but making meals that both of my kids will eat without complaint is hard enough.
"Last night she complained again that I don't keep anything she can eat in the house, and that she didn't want any of the food I made, and later when we didn't have ice cream she asked me if I would go get her something from the store.
"I got a little short with her and flat-out told her that we are fine helping her, but we aren't her kid's father and we aren't just going to cater to her because she is knocked up.
"She cried, and my husband feels stuck in the middle."
People defended the Reddit poster, however, saying that she was already going above and beyond by allowing her to live in their house.
One wrote: "You're going above and beyond in allowing her to live in your home and provide quality shelter and food for her. Cravings are not necessities- they are wants. She's in a situation where pure and simple, she didn't prepare herself to get all of her wants. Your comment was not out of line. She's not the first pregnant person ever and her failure to plan is not your problem to solve."
Someone suggested it may be due to deficiencies in her body, commenting: "Certain vitamin deficiencies can cause cravings. I have never been pregnant but I went through a few months where I constantly craved ice. I can't even tell you how much crushed ice I ate in a day but it was an obscene amount.
"When I went in for my annual check-up, my doctor brought up how well hydrated I was and I joked with her and told her it must be from all of the ice I was eating. That raised a red flag and she sent me in for blood work. It turns out that I was severely anemic and the anemia was what was causing the intense cravings for ice.
"That being said, the original poster's sister-in-law's cravings for junk food are very likely not caused by any sort of deficiency and the original poster is not responsible for purchasing groceries to satisfy her sister-in-law's cravings."
Another said that it was good that she was in a household that ate healthily, writing: "If her pregnancy is high-risk, all that junk food is not helping. All that sugar, fat, and salt content is not helping with her blood pressure or sugar which could make things worse. She should be eating healthy food and leaving the junk for once in a while."
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