When living at your parents house, most children are expected to keep their rooms clean and pitch in with the chores from time to time. But this usually comes to an end after you move out - considering you now have your own house to clean.
One woman has shared how her mum makes her to help her around the house when she visits, doing everything from setting the table, serving food and drinks and cleaning up. However, she claims her brother gets to sit and relax while she hurries around him.
She said on Reddit: "My brother and I are adults who both moved out of the house long ago - but my mum still expects me to do more chores whenever I visit her.
"I have a boomer mother who unfortunately still holds a lot of antiquated views about gender roles.
"Whenever my brother and I visit her, she's constantly asking me to help clean up or serve guests while my brother just gets to relax and not lift a finger."
While she doesn't mind helping out, she finds it "infuriating" that it's so one-sided between her and her brother - and wonders whether her mum would help clean up when invited round to her house.
She added: " It’s just infuriating - we both have full time jobs, visit her at the same time, and she still places the responsibility of chores on me.
"I don't get why she simply can’t ask him to do a few things around the house."
Wanting to know whether this is 'normal' in other households, she has taken to Reddit to gauge a better understanding of her mum's mentality.
Commenting on her post, one user said: "My mum used to do this. For reference, I'm the boomer, she was born in 1928.
"I had a brother 18 months older. Every holiday I would be doing all the kitchen prep, table work, serving and clean up.
"Finally, one holiday I showed up on crutches. Plunked my butt down and said no. Can't help, can't lift, can't carry, can't clean.
"It was a bit of a s*** show but after that it got a lot fairer - and there was nothing wrong with me, I just had enough."
Another user added: "See what happens if you tell your brother to join you in helping every time your mother asks.
"Dishes? Come on, bro, you wash, I’ll dry. Serve the guests? Bro, you make the plates, I’ll carry them to the guests.
"Make sure he always gets the tasks your mum can’t take over - and consistently, every time."
A third user said: "My mother-in-law does this. We don’t go to her house anymore (because of a lot of other reasons), but when we would go there on holidays she’d always tag me into chores when my husband would always be allowed to just relax.
"It got worse when we had kids, and a lot of it was on my husband just enjoying the relaxation instead of offering his own labour efforts.
"I just want to point out that I’m a good guest and proactive about pulling my weight on holidays anyway, but it was like every time I’d sit down I’d be tagged in to something else.
"I finally grew some balls and pointed this out to my husband (who says he hadn’t really noticed - but I think that was a combination of it being convenient for him, and also some learned helplessness from him having grown up in a house where men did no domestic labour).
"Then every time she would ask/tell me to do something I would say 'I’ve actually just done XYZ, so [husband] can do that now'.
"My aim was to be emotionally neutral in my delivery, and fairly matter of fact. It 100 per cent did not change her, but I feel like it set boundaries around how I would allow myself to be treated."
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