A woman who recently lost her husband says she was beside herself when she discovered her sister intended to name her newborn son after him, without so much as checking in with her beforehand.
Her sister, who she refers to using the pseudonym Kayla, just doesn't understand why her decision is "really awful" and doesn't think that she should change her baby's name.
The grieving widow is herself eight months pregnant, having tragically lost her army husband, Rodrigo, three months back. She'd wanted to call her baby Alex, with Rodrigo as his middle name.
Her younger sister Kayla had never discussed baby names with her or any other member of their family beforehand.
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Turning to Reddit users for advice, the unnamed 30-year-old woman wrote: "Yesterday she came back home with the baby and introduced us all to 'baby boy Rodrigo'. I started crying and told her that was really awful of her.
"My mother comforted me and told my sister she is way out of line with the name. Sister says I don't own the name, it's a common name where we live (it is) and I am going with Rodrigo as a middle name anyway, not a first, so it won't be a problem.
"I told my sister to just change the name to literally anything else. She says I'm an a****** for suggesting she changes her kid's identity."
The mum-to-be, who goes by the username u/Oxandri, is now wondering whether or not she too has crossed the line on this occasion.
However, her fellow Reddit users were quick to reassure her that it was her sister who had acted insensitively, not her, and it was by no means out of order for her to request a name change.
One person wrote: "While you can't own a name, it still feels wrong to name your kid the same name as your sister's dead husband without talking about it first. Especially if he died so recently. Maybe if she talked to you about it first, then you'd feel differently."
Another said: "She should have consulted you if she was considering that name, it's a constant reminder of your loss along with the fact you had already made it clear it would be the middle name for your child.
"Super insensitive the way she did it as well, and you'd be well within your rights to not let it go. I'm so so sorry for your loss."
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