A woman who is soon to be married says she and her partner initially wanted a small wedding and had invited along around 70 guests. Everything changed however when both sets of parents started getting involved, inviting along friends and family members without checking with them first.
Her husband-to-be's family is said to be "very large" and his parents have unfortunately felt the need to invite along "every cousin and aunt they’ve never spoken to". Their guest list now stands at around 250 people, a far cry from the intimate ceremony they'd been hoping for.
To make matters worse, the frustrated bride-to-be says that around 60 to 70% of the guest are people she either doesn't really care about or that she has "never even met". Things are getting expensive, and she thinks her in-laws should at least chip in.
Taking to Reddit, where she goes by the username u/MagicianFluid3599, the fuming bride wrote: "Now I’m out another £8,425 to £12,650 ($10-15k) because parents couldn’t stop inviting their friends and family.
"I yelled at his family to stop inviting every random person and that they need to help pay for it if they were going to do this. I understand it’s my fiancé's wedding too obviously and he’s only going along with the invites for cultural reasons but at this point, this is nothing like the wedding we wanted and I’m in a horrible amount of debt.
"His family has also made a comment that traditionally the bride's family pays and they’re big fans of tradition."
She now wonders whether she should have kept schtum about the money, and has reached out to fellow Reddit users for some words of wisdom.
One person advised: "The solution is that these people don't come to your wedding. If his parents want a party with all these extra people they can throw one.
"Them paying for the wedding and you having 150+ people you don't want there is not a great solution. You should 'uninvite' these people."
Another commented: "Either your fiancé steps up with dealing with his family or you cancel the wedding, hopefully in favour of an elopement.
"I think getting them to pay would be a mistake - they'd feel you were obligated to them. Not a good start.
"This is quite a useful test: if he won't make them back down over this it's a good indicator of what married life will be like. This does give both of you a compatibility test. Good luck!"
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