Deciding what sort of engagement ring your partner wants can be seriously difficult - especially if they've dropped absolutely no hints about what sort of style they're into. To err on the side of caution, you may decide to play it safe and stick to a diamond, but what would you do if your partner got you a "tiny" ring that "gets lost" on your hand?
The woman admitted that she knew she'd get "ripped to shreds" by people for admitting that she likes the "style" of the ring her partner got for her - but not the size of it, which she described as "barely noticeable."
She took to Mumsnet to share that she'd been proposed to on holiday, describing it as "great and very sweet." She said: "We are both not the most socially outgoing types and he's quite uncomfortable with all the attention this news will bring so I haven't told a soul yet. I said yes, obviously.
"We were in a country with a high crime rate so he had a temporary dummy ring for that and also because my actual ring hadn't arrived yet."
But when the ring came, she was left cold as "it's exactly the style" she wanted - but the "diamond is so tiny" and gets "lost" on her hand - but she did admit that the ring was from expensive American retailer Tiffany.
"I don't want to be ungrateful", she shared, "as he really has tried here and the style of it is my dream ring, and he picked something from Tiffany all by himself. That may have a part to play as I know they mark up prices for everything. Anyway, the diamond is a 0.22 carat and while it is very very sparkly it is so so small it's barely noticeable.
"Do I just keep quiet about this even though I don't totally love it, or do I be honest - I'd be willing to pay for the difference to say change to a 0.5-carat diamond instead but don't want to offend him by suggesting this. I'm not after some big 2-carat ring or something.
"I assume the platinum think band itself was pricey. I've no idea how much it cost and I know I don't need to know that, I don't know if upgrading the diamond by half a carat is going to be unreasonable either. What would you do here? Do I just wear it regardless or should I be honest and try not to offend him while I do?"
In the comments, people shared that they thought the man was going to be offended, writing: "I think it is likely to offend him to want to change it for a bigger diamond, yes. It's suggesting you don't think he spent enough on you."
Others defended him, sharing: "Keep it as it is. The size of the diamond doesn't matter it's the thought that counts."
Another said: "Sorry this might be the answer, but if my fiance chose an engagement ring unless it was hideous, I would accept the ring graciously. To be honest, if I gave someone a Tiffany ring and they would prefer to upgrade the carat, I would take this as a red flag and reconsider our compatibility. I would carefully consider if the marriage will flourish and your lifestyle expectations going forward will be met."
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