A woman, whose partner acted completely out of character and visited a strip club, is struggling to forgive him after his decision. Everything she thought she knew about him has been completely wiped away as she struggles with her feeling of betrayal.
In her despair she took to Mumsnet to seek solace, where she wrote: "It feels like my world has crumbled over night".
She arrived home after an evening out with friends to no sign of her boyfriend, and started to panic when she couldn't get hold of him.
Eventually she got an answer but became even more concerned: "I thought this was odd. He came home, completely out of it. This is the first time in my life I have known/seen my partner under the influence. As far as I was aware, he was anti-drugs (and so am I). Something didn’t feel right, so I asked him to leave and go to his mums."
She was completely unprepared for what came next: "Thirty minutes later I received a text saying that he was really sorry, he’d lied and had got completely off his face, got a taxi into town and spent £150 at a strip club. WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL."
Up to this point the woman had complete trust in her boyfriend: "I have never ever had any reason to doubt my partner. He is the love of my life, he rarely drinks or goes out as he is training a lot for various marathons."
"This is extremely unusual, bizarre and never in a million years would I have thought he would do this. I don’t know why I’m posting, but I feel so lonely, lost and devastated about where we go from here.
"It’s destroyed my confidence in seconds and I feel sick knowing he’s been aroused by another woman. Please somebody save me from my misery."
There was sympathy from Mumsnet, but also measured advice for the woman who is struggling with the ordeal.
One comment said: "Sounds like he's having some sort of breakdown to be honest, if this is that out of character for him. It sounds manic. He needs to agree to speak to a professional if there's going to be any hope for your relationship.
"How you're feeling is also completely valid and understandable, regardless of why he's done this, even if it is a mental health break. You take all the time you need to process, he can sit at his mum's and wait for you to be ready."
Another person wrote: "If it was all on his own and this is out of character I think I'd be, at this point, very concerned for his mental health. That doesn't mean I'd forgive but it sounds like he needs some help from somewhere as it sounds unusual behaviour from anyone."
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