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Zahna Eklund

'I get benefits to help buy food - now my neighbour demands I shop for her too'

For many of us, helping out a neighbour in need is a kind deed we wouldn't think twice about doing, especially if they just need the odd splash of milk or some sugar when they've found themselves short.

But one woman has claimed her neighbours are taking things too far with their requests for help, as they've started asking her for more than 20 items at a time from her own stock - and have even demanded she does most of their shopping.

The single mum, who is from the US, said she had new neighbours who moved in in November, and with the stress of their move, they asked for help with their groceries as they hadn't had time to get to the shops before Thanksgiving at the end of the month.

The mum refuses to use her benefits to buy her neighbour's shopping (stock photo) (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

However, instead of asking the mum if she had a couple of things to spare, one of her new neighbours demanded she supply her with between 20 and 30 items on the night before the annual American holiday.

In a post on Reddit, the woman explained: "I live in a rental that also has another rental house on the same property. I am a single mum who works a full-time job.

"My new neighbour has been constantly pestering me for different groceries. Her husband makes $60,000 a year according to her, whereas I make around $18,000. She is home all day and gets the mail for both houses.

"Right before Thanksgiving, I went to the grocery store and had to go to several because most of the stores were out of things. She waited until the Wednesday before Thanksgiving to do her shopping. They were out of a lot of things.

"She sent me a long text with about 20-30 things she 'needed'. I told her I didn't have most of the items but had a few. She begged for the few that I had."

The mum agreed to be a good neighbour and gave the other woman the items she could, including three jars of peanut butter and six tins of beans, but was miffed when her neighbour failed to offer to pay her back or replace the items she'd taken after the Thanksgiving rush was over.

And a few weeks later, the mum received another shopping list from her neighbour – this time with a whopping 80 items on it.

The woman put her foot down and told her neighbour she couldn't do the shopping for both households, but the neighbour accused her of hoarding her money as she dropped the bombshell that she'd seen the mum's benefits letters, so assumed she had plenty of cash to buy whatever food she wanted.

She added: "I ran errands on Sunday, and she sent me a text with about 80 items she wanted me to shop for. I told her I didn't have the extra money, and I didn't have the time to shop for two households.

"She got really upset and told me it wouldn't take that much longer to pick up her items. I told her I wasn't able to. I told her that I have to stretch my food dollars and cannot afford to keep giving them groceries.

"She replied that I was getting SNAP, and she knows this because she 'accidentally' opens my mail constantly. I told her I don't get very much, and I just qualified on Friday, and I had to buy baby food for my son.

"She told me I was being an a**hole because they don't qualify for any help and the least that I can do is help them when they need help."

In the US, SNAP is the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, which is designed to help low-income families put food on the table for themselves and their children.

Commenters on the Reddit post couldn't believe the neighbour's behaviour, as they branded her "outrageous" – and also pointed out that opening someone else's post is a federal offence in the US, which could carry a prison sentence of up to five years.

One person wrote: "Stop shopping for her and giving her food immediately and send her a bill for all of what you've spent so far on her items. If you don't get it from her, give it to her husband so he can pay."

While another said: "This is outrageous behaviour!"

And a third posted: "First off, you qualifying for SNAP is absolutely none of her business. She violated federal law by opening your mail. I would put a stop to that quickly. Contact your local post office to inform them and see what you can do."

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