An ardent history lover got married two months ago and wanted her special day to reflect a very specific time period - right down to the bridesmaids' dresses.
As she and her new husband are both historians - who met through their research of the Regency era - they wanted their wedding to look just like something out of Bridgerton, as a way "to honour our beginnings".
When it came to her maid of honour, the 32-year-old bride decided on her childhood friend Jessica, who happens to have tattoos on her hands, legs, torso, and neck.
When she asked Jessica what she intended to do about the tattoos on the big day so as to be in keeping with the traditional look, Jessica replied that, although she understood how important the theme was to the couple, she wasn't going to be covering up her body art.
Although the bride admits she was a "little miffed" by this reluctance, she didn't push things any further and wanted to respect Jessica's boundaries. She also wasn't too worried, as the bridesmaids would be wearing gloves, meaning only her neck tattoos would be visible.
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However, on the day itself, Jessica turned up wearing short gloves rather than the long ones the bride had expected, meaning her arm tattoos were on full display.
She'd also had her neckline unexpectedly adjusted at the last minute, taking her by surprise
Taking to Reddit, she recalled: "I did not expect this and was kind of thrown off, but after a while, I stopped caring and was busy having the best day of my life.
"However fast forward to a few weeks ago, I got back the first set of pictures from my wedding day and the pics with Jessica in them were jarring, to say the least, because of her tattoos.
"It was honestly so out of place since I had asked my photographer to edit the pics to give them a historic portrait-like look. I wanted a particular pic of my husband and I, our families plus maid of honour and best man framed. However, if anyone saw that pic the first thing they would’ve noticed was Jessica’s tattoos, and not my husband and I".
The poster, who goes by the username u/NefariousnessSafe443, continued: "I really wanted this one particular picture to look like an actual portrait drawn in 1810 so I went ahead and asked the photographer to digitally remove the tattoos.
"The post-Photoshop pic came in the mail yesterday and I showed it to Jessica, I knew she would get annoyed with this and I was ready to apologize sincerely, but also let her know that I won't be returning the picture.
"Jessica was very very mad when she saw the pic and told me this was a narcissistic and disrespectful thing to do and stormed out of my house, she was madder than I ever expected her to be so now I’m not sure if I was truly way out of line, or just a little bit selfish".
Giving further clarification, the poster explained that she believes Jessica's tattoos to be "beautiful and uniquely her", but simply felt they didn't fit in with the theme of the ceremony.
Her fellow Reddit users have sympathised with her position, agreeing that, as artistic as Jessica's tattoos may well be, she shouldn't have changed her neckline or gloves without first discussing it.
They wrote: "Frankly if she wasn’t willing to wear the clothes the poster provided then she should have declined being in the wedding party".
Another said: "You were wearing period costumes that you paid for and she modified hers (I.e. the neckline) without your consent. The bride and groom are supposed to be the focus of attention at their own wedding, but she dominated the pictures because she insisted on displaying tattoos.
"If she couldn't respect your wishes, then you have every right to modify any and all pictures to be consistent with that period and to keep the focus on yourself and your husband".
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