A man single-handily destroyed his marriage after ordering a DNA test on his middle child because 'he looks nothing like him'. The 37-year-old explained how he has been married for 12 years and has three children with his wife - but believes she 'played away' as his second-born doesn't share his family features.
Wanting to know the truth, he bought a paternity kit and tested his son, telling his wife "she shouldn't have a problem with it if she has nothing to hide". Taking to Reddit he said: "I always had this nagging feeling that our middle child wasn’t mine. Our oldest and youngest look just like me, but my middle child doesn’t.
"My wife has shown me a picture of her grandfather and he does look a lot like him, but he just doesn’t have any of my family features. He looks so different to anyone else in the family.
"I decided I wanted a paternity test to put my mind at ease.
"My wife got pretty upset when I brought it up because cheating has always been a deal breaker for her, but I just saw that as all the more reason to get one done."
When the results came in, he received proof that he is the child's biological father.
"I thought everything was fine, and I had my peace of mind," he added. "Except she told me she was going to take the kids and go to her parents for a while.
"When I asked why she exploded. [She] told me that she was seriously considering divorcing me over this stunt.
"She was furious with me for doubting her loyalty. [She said I know] how she felt about cheating and that she would never forgive me for what I put our son through, making him question his place in the family."
He tried to explain his reasoning to her - but she wasn't having any of it and instead decided to ignore him altogether.
He said: "I just wanted to be sure, and that surely she could see why I'd question it when he looks nothing like me.
"She told me she would never forgive me for this, and that I hoped my foolish pride was worth the cost of my family."
After spending some much-needed time away to think, his wife approached him for a sit down conversation about their future.
"We talked and basically it boiled down to her wanting a divorce because I don’t trust her and think so poorly of her character that I thought she’d pass another man's child off as mine," the man added.
"She then said she’ll never forgive me for treating my son so abhorrently that he asked why I hated him.
"I didn’t realise I treated him so differently, but apparently it was obvious.
"I tried to defend myself but she asked what I meant then. [She said] no matter how I tried to dress it up, I accused her of cheating and treating our son like trash because he wasn’t my spitting image.
"She then brought up she wondered if I was projecting because only one of us ever had infidelity in their background and it wasn’t her.
"That stung, because while yes, I had cheated in two past relationships, I’ve never cheated on her. I said that but she said she’d never cheated at all, but that didn’t stop me from accusing her of it did it?
"So now my kids won’t talk to me and my wife wants to divorce me - all over a paternity test."
At a loss with what to do, the man has taken to Reddit to ask users how he should handle this situation moving forward.
In response, one user said: "This guy keeps saying 'my wife is divorcing me over a paternity test' but she isn't.
"She's divorcing him over treating one of his children abhorrently and distrusting her and generally being a crappy partner.
"Honestly, this guy sounds like he sucks. Good for her."
Another user added: "The more he writes the more I think that his wife leaving him and his son hating him is about more than just a DNA test."
A third user said: "All over a paternity test... All over husband being a total d***head, more like."
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