Announcing a pregnancy to your family members can be a big deal, especially if it's your first baby and you're excited to share the news with those closest to you.
But one woman has unintentionally started a war with her sister after she was accused of stealing her sibling's "moment" when she announced she was expecting her second baby - just moments after her sister revealed her pregnancy.
The mum - who is currently three months pregnant - said she and her husband have been trying for baby number two for several years and had tragically been through two miscarriages in that time.
The couple planned to announce the exciting news while at a family dinner, but when they sat down to eat, the woman's sister decided to share her own announcement - that she is pregnant with her first baby.
The woman was thrilled for her sister, and after congratulating her, she went ahead with her original plan to share her baby news too.
In a post on Reddit, she said: "My husband and I have been trying for our second baby for two and a half years. We lost two pregnancies during that time, though we only told our families about the first. I'm incredibly grateful to now be 13 weeks pregnant and have been looking forward to sharing that news with my family.
"On Friday, we had dinner with my family - my sister, her boyfriend, and our parents - and we decided to share our news then. I decided to wait until dessert so that we could leave shortly after telling everyone. Obviously, it's exciting news, but I was worried about all the emotions that could surface for myself and my husband.
"Right after we sat down to eat, my sister announced that she and her boyfriend were expecting their first child. I was thrilled for her and congratulated her, as did the rest of the family. Once things had settled down, I decided I didn't want to waste the opportunity to have everyone together and thought it would be a good opportunity to keep the joy flowing, so I shared that I'm pregnant as well.
"Our parents were so excited to be having two new grandbabies just a month apart and I was super happy that my kids would have a new cousin. My sister was happy for me but she left very soon after dinner and didn't stay for dessert."
A few days later, the mum received a phone call from her sister, who was furious at her for "taking away her moment".
The woman insisted she saw the double announcement as "sharing joy" rather than "stealing" it, but her sister said she should have let her have the special moment to herself, especially as it was her first time.
She added: "She called me this afternoon and told me that as happy as she was for me, she felt that I'd done a sh***y thing by taking away 'her moment'. She pointed out that this is my second baby and when I announced it for the first time, I didn't have to 'share' with anyone.
"I didn't want to apologise because I didn't feel I'd done anything wrong, but she finished the phone call by saying that she didn't think I was really even happy for her if I couldn't have let her have that moment and taken another for myself later on. That really stung.
"I truly didn't see it that way. I saw it as sharing joy, not stealing it. I also see each pregnancy as being unique, so I don't feel that it was right of her to say I shouldn't have said anything because it was my second baby."
Commenters on the post were split, as while some agreed that the mum should have let her sister have the spotlight for one night, others said her sibling doesn't "own" pregnancy announcements and isn't entitled to an "entire day of attention".
One person said: "You could have waited for a different day and I don't think it is bad that she wanted to be in the spotlight a little bit. As she said, it was her first baby and she wanted people to be happy that they are having a kid."
While another added: "Announcing right after your sister wasn't the worst thing, but it would have been much more considerate to wait at least a day. Let her have one night of feeling special. Have a family dinner the next weekend and announce [it then]."
But someone else disagreed, stating: "This greed for attention is getting way out of hand. Your sister does not need or deserve an entire day of attention from everyone just because she managed to conceive a kid. Everyone is happy for her, that should be enough. Her jealousy of you also having a pregnancy to celebrate is childish, ridiculous, and narcissistic."
"One sister doesn't own a pregnancy announcement", a fourth wrote.
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