Christmas is a time to spend with loved ones over mounds of tasty food and is meant to be a happy holiday.
However, it can be difficult to put reality on hold on December 25, especially if you're spending it alone. While it is meant to bring people together, the festive period can strengthen feelings of loneliness in many people.
The buzz of parties and gatherings ahead of Christmas Day are quickly met with empty offices, schools and shops which close, making some feel excluded by the holiday.
The anticipation for Christmas can start as early as November, as we are plagued with emotional advertisements that pull on the heart strings. However the lead up this year has been dampened by the crippling cost of living crisis, putting pressure on households to spend money while budgets are tight.
For those spending it alone, it can be tough to ignore Christmas entirely. But there are ways you can help make your experience feel less isolating and enjoy it.
It can help to bear in mind that far fewer people are having a glossy family celebration straight out of a Coca-Cola advert than you’d expect. For some people this will be a busy period, but for others it will be a time of quiet reflection.
Christmas is a varied experience. There is no one overriding version that applies to all, or even most, people. A lot of people work over Christmas, and students (especially international students) may choose, or not be able to, return to their family homes.
Research has found Christmas can be a time of decreased wellbeing even for people surrounded by their loved ones, including family tensions and financial worries.
This year the cost of living crisis and industrial disputes will throw many people’s plans into chaos. All this will disrupt that stereotype of a universal Christmas full of cheer that everyone else is experiencing without us.
And while we often think of isolation as something that impacts older older, research confirms loneliness affects all people of all ages. Some studies have found actually younger people are more likely to report feeling lonely than other age groups.
There can be a huge temptation to scroll through social media feeds when we are alone to see what everyone else is doing. But high levels of social media consumption is associated with increased negative mood and worsened loneliness.
Instead, if you are worried about spending Christmas alone why not try some of these tips...
1. Connect with others
Put yourself out there to friends, family, loved ones, or a group that you feel a connection to.
For example, join a running group if you enjoy exercise. Being part of a group that you share a purpose and identity with can raise your spirits.
If you hesitate to talk to people you know because you worry they won’t have time, think about how you would respond if they reached out to you.
If you would make time for them, the chances are they will too. Even if it’s just for a chat.
2. Volunteer
Consider volunteering with any range of age groups, communities, animal shelters or charities.
Volunteering can reduce loneliness and increase your sense of connectedness. Feeling lonely is not the same as being alone.
There can be many positive aspects of being alone that you can lean into over Christmas.
3. Take time for gratitude
When we feel alone we can end up in a negative loop where feelings of loneliness lead to negative thoughts which reinforce loneliness.
Taking a moment to practice gratitude breaks this cycle. It can boost your wellbeing by redirecting your thoughts to more uplifting aspects of life. Regular gratitude practice has been found to reduce loneliness and even depression.
4. Catch up on books and box sets
Allow yourself to get stuck in to a good book. Reading can brighten your mood. If you are not confident in reading, you can always listen to an audiobook, or indulge in a box set that you wouldn’t have time for ordinarily.
5. Exercise
The physical and mental health benefits of exercise are well known. Even the most gentle exercise can do wonders to cheer you up. Taking the time to focus mindfully on a walk and lean into solitude can help lift you out of a downwards spiral.
6. Enjoy the rituals
Spending the season by yourself doesn’t mean that Christmas can’t be special.
If Christmas is something that you love, then the rituals associated with Christmas can boost your mental health and combat loneliness. Remind yourself that you can decide what Christmas means to you, and how you want to spend it, and that is a gift.
Nilufar Ahmed, Senior Lecturer in Social Sciences, CPsychol, FHEA, University of Bristol
This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.
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