Wendy, 55, Bristol
Occupation Works in IT
Voting record Mostly Labour, depending on their policies. Would never vote Conservative
Amuse bouche Has been playing online games since the early 2000s, with strangers from all over the world, some of whom have become friends in real life. Currently plays Kings of Avalon
Rob, 58, Bristol
Occupation Self-employed fitness coach and a trainer in conflict management and physical interventions. Also does property maintenance
Voting record Used to vote Conservative because he thought the local MP was good; when he stood down, voted Reform, mainly in protest
Amuse bouche A few years ago he cycled across the US, from St Augustine, Florida, to Santa Monica pier in California
For starters
Rob She’s very friendly. I asked her: “Have you been nervous all day?” She said: “Absolutely. I’ve been reading up on things and rehearsing what to say.” The conversation just flowed.
Wendy He was superb. I don’t like his politics, but that’s to be expected.
Rob We had some sourdough and balsamic vinegar. Wendy had the something parfait …
Wendy … chicken liver parfait. Breast of duck. Cannelloni with raspberries and seafood. It was really unusual, though in the Elizabethan era they often put fruit in their savoury food.
The big beef
Rob There wasn’t much substance to Wendy’s argument for why she disliked Trump. I think he’s a very Marmite character, but unless you live in the US, it’s very difficult to gauge what Trump is about. If you watch the BBC, they’re going to portray him in a certain light; if you go on Twitter and find an independent journalist, they’re going to portray him in a completely different light. It’s difficult, too, because he’s only got 20 words in his vocabulary. But I think he has the US’s interests at heart. I don’t think he has an ulterior motive.
Wendy I think Trump’s misogynistic. “Grab them by the pussy” is an awful thing to say about women. What he’s physically done in real life is even worse. I think Rob was in favour of his policies, but they are so vague and so opportunistic I feel they’re all a bit pants, really. I didn’t buy Rob’s line on the media – I think newspapers just report what they see. And if anything, the bias would be the other way round, because his supporters own the media.
Rob We agreed that the government shouldn’t be telling women they don’t have a right to an abortion. But she said Trump was the antichrist because of that, and I said: “Maybe it’s because the church is so ingrained in US politics. When you get to the Bible belt, that vote carries a lot of weight. Trump has an obligation to carry their principles and take abortion off the table.”
Wendy Trump’s strengths are that he gets on well with the enemy, like Russia and North Korea. I think it’s bordering on treason to fraternise with the enemy.
Sharing plate
Rob Neither of us like Tommy Robinson, but I defended his right to free speech, just like I would defend Jeremy Corbyn’s right to free speech. We live in a democracy – unless he’s being really derogatory to a certain race, he shouldn’t be shut down.
Wendy I could do without people like Tommy Robinson – or Stephen Yaxley-Lennon – and I don’t think Rob likes him much either. But he thinks Nigel Farage has some good points, and he voted Reform, which surprised me, because he’s such a nice chap.
For afters
Rob We agreed that there wasn’t a climate crisis. I said: “None of us are going to die, the world’s not going to end in 20 years’ time.” She said she thinks there will be big catastrophic events further down the line.
Wendy My first degree was in environmental science and environmental biology, so I did not agree there was no crisis. I think we’ll experience a series of catastrophic incidents, getting closer together, with a potential final extinction event.
Takeaways
Rob We hugged each other at the end, and said that we’d be kind about each other. She said she had a nice time, and I did too.
Wendy We parted on very good terms. I like people with different views, it makes me think. If everyone thought the same way, life would be boring.
Additional reporting: Kitty Drake
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