Lorna Scott's blue eyes lock with the even bluer eyes of her daughter.
"When is Dad coming home? I've got to cook him tea," Mrs Scott asks.
"Dad has been gone for 10 years," Sue Gianni says.
Mrs Scott does not cry. She goes a bit quiet, but her expression talks: she is upset.
Her husband Warren passed away, and she could not remember.
But she will forget, and she will ask again.
Time with Dean Martin
Lorna Scott is 90. Every morning she wakes up, makes her bed perfectly, washes her face, puts lipstick on and picks what necklace to wear. Then she presses play on her stereo.
"I put music on first thing in the morning," Mrs Scott says.
Her tidy unit fills with the warm voice of The King of Cool, Dean Martin:
"One man, one wife,
"One love, through life
"Memories are made of this."
Mrs Scott lives by herself, but she lives with dementia.
Next to her reclining chair, on the table, on the fridge, there are notes reminding her to take her tablets, or to play Scrabble.
Next to the table, a display screen says: "Now it's Thursday morning".
When memories become jumbled and imprecise, time too is not linear and exact.
"When I am not here I just do the work, milk the cows and all that," Mrs Scott says.
"That was a long time ago," says her daughter, bringing her gently back to the present and her house with lawn too small, and manicured, for grazing.
Her daughter, Sue Gianni, has a few strategies to aid her mum's memory.
She made a memory box, decorated with pink roses and filled with family photos, telegrams from her wedding and the letters that her husband used to write to her when they were going out.
Mrs Scott looks at the pictures of her family that also cover the walls and are showed on repeat on a tablet.
"That was a top that [Lorna's son] Gary sent you for Christmas, wasn't it?" Sue Gianni asks her mum.
"Gee, you've got a good memory!" Mrs Scott exclaims.
Daughter-mother
For Ms Gianni, helping her mum to hold on to memories is holding on to her.
Mrs Scott does not smile as often as she used to.
"She is still caring, but the happiness is all gone," says Ms Gianni, describing her mum's sometimes blank expression.
Dementia can change mood and personality, but it can also change relationships.
"I feel like I'm her mum," Ms Gianni says. "She even said to me: 'You're my mum, aren't you?'"
Mrs Scott cared for Ms Gianni when she was little and for her daughter when Ms Gianni was working at the hospital.
Now Ms Gianni has taken on that role.
A coffee to break isolation
Processing these changes can be hard and repeating yourself frustrating, even for someone like Ms Gianni who has a good support network. But social isolation is a real challenge for the 400,000 or so Australians living with dementia, and their carers.
With this figure projected to more than double by 2058, Ms Gianni says more education would help people understand dementia.
"It frightens people," she says
"It is a terminal illness, people don't realise that."
Dementia is the leading cause of death for women in Australia, but many still see it as a normal part of ageing.
Dementia Australia CEO Maree McCabe explains that awareness is important because dementia is almost an invisible disability.
"What we can't see, we don't understand," she says.
Kalgoorlie in WA's Goldfields, where Mrs Scott and her daughter live, is taking steps to become more inclusive with one of the state's 17 Forget-Me-Not Memory Cafés catering for people with dementia and their carers.
Every month, Mrs Scott and her daughter attend the café where they can socialise.
Some of the women Mrs Scott used to teach an exercise class to come to say hello.
Ms Gianni treasures her regular outings with her mother, to the café, the Irish pub or the golf club.
Ms McCabe says she cared for her father, who had dementia and a brilliant sense of humour.
She says there are still beautiful times to be shared after a dementia diagnosis.
Where memory fails, love doesn't.
"They might forget names, they might forget faces, but they never forget how much they love you," Ms McCabe says.
Like Dean Martin sings in one of Mrs Scott's favourite songs:
"Remember me, I am the one who loves you,
"Remember me, I am the one who loves you."
