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Frances Kindon

Crushing grief drove Keanu Reeves to live alone in hotels after baby and partner died

He's famed for being one of the kindest men in Hollywood, and his kindness is all the more remarkable given the heartbreaking path Keanu Reeves has walked.

A series of devastating tragedies saw the Matrix star turn his back on mainstream life, and instead isolate himself alone in hotels while trying to process his overwhelming grief.

But all that appeared to change when Keanu - who turns 58 today - went public with girlfriend Alexandra Grant in 2019.

While there have been romance rumours with the likes of Amanda De Cadenet and Sandra Bullock over the years, it is the 49-year-old artist who he has made a go of it.

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Keanu Reeves is dating artist Alexandra Grant (Getty)

When news of the relationship first broke, it sparked a wave of joy among Keanu fans, who have long hoped he would find his own happy ending after enduring more than his fair share of heartbreak.

His childhood was fraught with grief after his father abandoned the family when Keanu was just three.

His dad was arrested for possession of heroin and cocaine, and sentenced to ten years in jail in 1994 before being released in 1996. They no longer speak.

"The story with me and my dad's pretty heavy. It’s full of pain and woe and f***ing loss and all that s***," he told Rolling Stone in 2000.

Keanu left high school without a diploma and embarked on an acting career, getting his big break with indie crime movie Rivers Edge in 1986, followed by Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure in 1988.

Keanu and Alexandra went public in 2019 (FilmMagic)
(Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images)

But in 1991 his younger sister Kim was diagnosed with leukemia aged just 25.

Keanu devoted himself to her care, suspending filming of two Matrix sequels to be by her side.

"When she was in the hospital he was there with her all the time, sitting at her bedside, holding her hand. Sometimes, it's almost like he doesn't trust himself to have a relationship with anyone," a close friend told People at the time.

She went into remission in 1999, just a year after he met actress Jennifer Syme at a party for his rock band Dog Star.

They fell in love, fell pregnant and were looking forward to the arrival of their baby daughter Ava when their dreams were shattered in an instant.

The tot died in Jennifer's womb and was stillborn on Christmas Eve, just a month before her due date.

Keanu and girlfriend Jennifer Syme lost their baby daughter on Christmas Eve (All Action)

Heartbroken, Jennifer is said to have suffered post-natal depression before grief tore her and Keanu apart.

They split soon after but were rumoured to have been trying to work things out just before her sudden death in 2001, aged just 28.

Jennifer was killed instantly in a car accident en route to a party at Marilyn Manson's house. A grief-stricken Keanu carried her coffin as she was laid to rest beside their daughter.

In 2006, he opened up about the agonising depths of his pain, telling Parade magazine: "Grief changes shape, but it never ends. People have a misconception that you can deal with it and say, 'It's gone, and I’m better'. They're wrong. When the people you love are gone, you're alone."

"I miss being a part of their lives and them being part of mine. I wonder what the present would be like if they were here – what we might have done together. I miss all the great things that will never be," he added.

The Hollywood pair later admitted there had been an attraction (Reuters)

With his domestic dreams shattered, Keanu instead embraced a rootless existence, remaining single and living out of suitcases in hotels.

For four years he called Los Angeles' Châteaux Marmont home.

"Sounds quite bohemian and gypsy-like, doesn't it?" he quipped of his lifestyle in 2010.

"I'm down to one bag now, and smaller rooms in hotels."

Posting on Reddit, a cleaner at one hotel he lived at claimed the star barely left his room and loved to watch Spongebob Squarepants on loop.

He got to know all the staff, asking them questions and remembering details. He apparently gave one worker $100 towards her rent and would write little notes to the chef if he enjoyed his meal.

His Devil's Advocate co-star Charlize Theron admitted she was bemused by his living arrangements, but sensed he was ready to change.

She told Rolling Stone: "When we started this movie, I asked if he was still living in a hotel, and he said, 'No, I'm ready to put some roots down somewhere.'

"I think, joking, he said something like, 'You know, the kid, the horse, the dog... and the wife.' The wife last.

Keanu pictured on TV series The Magical World of Disney in 1986 (ABC)
Keanu is famed for his free-spirited approach to life (Getty Images)

"I said, 'I think you have it all turned around – you gotta get the wife first.' But I think he has changed. Before, I think he liked the idea of living out of a suitcase... I think he’s now learned you can be a free spirit and have the other things as well."

These days he does indeed have other things. He finally bought a house in the Hollywood Hills and is said to have formed a close bond with Alexandra while working on books Ode To Happiness and Shadows.

But the heartbreak and trauma of his past remains with him.

"I don't think you ever work through it. Grief and loss, those are things that don’t ever go away. They stay with you," he told the Guardian in 2019.

"It's always with you, but like an ebb and flow."

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