Nicole Kidman is reportedly banned from attending her son Connor Cruise’s wedding to an Italian Scientologist named Silvia. The move was allegedly her ex-husband Tom Cruise’s decision, who is said to back the belief of The Church of Scientology that she is a “suppressive person”.
The claims were made by Radar Online, who claim an insider revealed “Tom is behind this and what he wants is as good as law. Tom made the call and Connor followed.”
Connor is Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman’s adopted son and is 24 years old. Radar’s source claimed, “Connor worships the ground his father walks on and would never disobey Tom.”
The source continued, “First, Tom would never even consider inviting Nicole to Connor's wedding because she's considered a 'suppressive person' by the church — and, second, he doesn't want her there.”
According to The Church of Scientology’s official website, a suppressive person is an individual who “seeks to suppress other people in their vicinity. A Suppressive Person will goof up or vilify any effort to help anybody and particularly knife with violence anything calculated to make human beings more powerful or more intelligent.
The website also states that a suppressive person is “also known as the Anti-Social personality” and “seeks to upset, continuously undermine, spread bad news about and denigrate betterment activities”.
It also states, “For the good of the Church and the individuals in it, such a person is officially labeled a Suppressive Person so that others will know not to associate with them.”
After Tom Cruise split from Nicole Kidman in 2001 citing “irreconcilable differences”, he retained custody of Connor and his sister Isabella Cruise. Connor and Isabella are reportedly both devout Scientologists.
According to prominent Scientology whistle-blower Tony Ortega, who leaked what he claimed was an email written by Isabella Cruise, Isabella recently underwent a “brutal” internship to become one of the church’s auditors, an individual who is “extensively trained to help other members through intense self-examination sessions with the help of an electronic device called the E-meter." In the reported email, she is said to have given a testimonial of her experience which read, "This IS what I had been searching for. The missing piece. Suddenly everything began to make sense."
Speculation has surrounded Nicole Kidman’s relationship with her adopted children for some time, as they have rarely been seen out in public together since her divorce from Tom Cruise. (Kidman noted in an interview in 2007 that her children "don't even call me mom".)
In a documentary called Going Clear: Scientology and the Prison of Belief, former scientologist Marty Rathbun claimed that he had been asked “to facilitate [Cruise’s] breakup with Nicole Kidman” and also claimed that the church “re-educated” Connor and Isabella so that Cruise could retain custody. The documentary claims that Kidman and Cruise refused to comment.
The church has repeatedly denied Rathbun's claims and told The Independent that he was "an anti-Scientologist, desperate and delusional" as well as somebody who was "expelled from the Church for violating scripture".
Kidman is now married to country singer Keith Urban and they have two children together. Connor and his sister Isabella attended their 2006 wedding and were pictured leaving the reception with their mother.
Nicole Kidman thanked Keith Urban and their children in a recent Golden Globes speech after winning for her 2018 performance in Big Little Lies. (Some noted at the time that she did not thank her adopted children.)
She said to Who magazine, “They are adults. They are able to make their own decisions. They have made choices to be Scientologists and as a mother, it’s my job to love them. And I am an example of that tolerance and that’s what I believe — that no matter what your child does, the child has love and the child has to know there is available love and I’m open here.”
