Children pick things up from all around them, and they are easily influenced.
You may think that your children are too young to internalise what you say, but that often isn't the case.
What we expose them to is most likely what they will carry with them for the rest of their lives in one way or another, so it's important to be aware of the things you say and do - which can be easier said than done.
Angela Karanja, an adolescent psychologist and parenting teenagers expert has explained exactly why it's so important you use neutral language when it comes to kids.
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Speaking to The Sun she claims that the subconscious mind is open to all sorts of suggestions. So, you may think your children are too young to understand the fact you use negative language about yourself - but that's not the case.
She explains: "Children don't reason or think objectively. Think of the brain as rich soil; whatever seeds fall on it, will grow, and bring forth its kind."
After the age of seven, Angela explained this is the point when children start to learn how to think for themselves.
Angela said it's especially important to not use self-battering and self-loathing language around your children because this will become the norm for them.
You should not say things like 'I'm such a failure', 'I'm ugly', or 'I'm fat' in places where your children can hear because these comments can harm them.
Angela added: "Consider a parent as a leader, how positively influential are they when they have no faith in themselves?
"Doing this in the presence of their kids who are so impressionable, parents teach by the demonstration that it is ok to not have faith in self."
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